Something else for the fellas: When a woman accuses a guy of being too nice, what shes really saying is that he lacks testicular fortitude. Shes calling him a pushover; someone who can be easily manipulated and wrapped tightly around her finger. And no matter how much women say they want a nice guy, they dont really mean it in the strictest sense of the word. This is where learning the language of women comes into play. Men speak Menglish; women speak Feminese. Ive been giving the ladies a foretaste of the menglish language for months now; even though many cant appreciate learning our language. Now I want to hip the fellas to a little feminese. Todays word in feminese is nice. Whenever a woman says she wants a really nice guy, what she basically means is that she does NOT want Ike Turner Jr. Shes not trying to get with a dude who will bust her upside the head because she didnt stack the cans in the kitchen cabinets right. She wants a guy she can have fun with and be herself around, without being treated like shes old chewing gum on the bottom of his shoe. Now thats not your cue to go shopping for handbags with her at the mall either. Nor does she want you hanging out with her at the nail salon getting his and her pedicures. And shes not looking for you to do whatever she wants whenever she wants it done. Thats not being nice. Thats called being a chump! Women like to know the man theyre with has a backbone. They also like to know their boundaries in a relationship. Its your duty as a man to establish what those boundaries are for you. Just know of a certainty that sooner or later shes going to test those boundaries. And you better be prepared to stick by your guns when she does. Or else shell put you in the chump category, and may start wandering in her heart after the guy who actually has a pair of gonads and some self respect. Whenever I started seeing a woman, I always gave them my 3 non-negotiables. They are: 1. Never let me catch you in a lie. 2. Never embarrass me out in public by making a big scene. 3. Never put our personal business in the streets. As long as she was willing to abide by those 3 things, we were good. But violation of any one usually resulted in immediate or eventual dismissal. And I always stuck by my guns. You should have standards and stick by your guns too. My advice to you: quit focusing on trying to be the nicest guy, and just be yourself. The easiest thing to be in this world is yourself, because no pretense is ever needed for that. Just be authentic. You should never feel that you have to pretend just to get someone else to like you. Thats a major issue I find with many guys today. If she doesnt like who you are, you should simply move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Again: lets not get crazy here. Thats not your cue to start acting like a complete butthead. All Im asking you to do is have standards and a backbone. And for the love of God: quit acting like you want to hear her whine all night on the phone about her ex! Sometimes women will do that just to test you. And sometimes theyre still emotionally attached to some guy theyre no longer with. Either way whenever a woman starts bringing up her ex, cut that off with the quickness and let her know that her ex is her past and thats where he belongs. And youre trying to see what the future holds for the two of you. The sooner you make things clear without apology, the sooner you can start earning your respect. I have a whole ebook dedicated to decoding the Feminese language. Its called Flip The Game: Serious Game for Game Changers. Download it right now by following the link in the comment box. Dont delay. Youll be glad you did; especially if youre frustrated with trying to understand what women really want these days.
Posted on: Fri, 31 Oct 2014 06:00:57 +0000