Suicide Loss ANGER ------------ In the aftermath of suicide, survivors feel many strong emotions, sometimes moving from one to another fairly rapidly. Anger is an integral part of the traumatic and complicated grief process. Sometimes, survivors experience displaced anger. They feel upset, dissatisfied and irritated. My life is very out of control right now. It seems like everything bothers me and I have zero tolerance or patience with anybody in my life. I would like somebody to talk to me, to help me out, but when they do, I criticize them because they dont say the right thing or do the right thing or because their tone of voice just seems so annoying to me. Sometimes, anger is focused at individuals who may have hurt their loved. It can also be focused at mental health professionals or others who are insensitive to their grief. Im not angry with my son. Im angry that a death occurred and that the death was a suicide. Im angry that I cant cope with my grief. Im angry that everyones life is going on and mine is not. Im angry that I did not see this coming. Im angry at the people who gave him the gun. Im angry they seem to have no sadness or remorse. Although some survivors say they have never felt anger towards their loved one, most do at some point. When he took his life, I am sure that he did not think for one minute about the consequences of what he was about to do. He would not have thought about how I wake every night with thoughts running through my head about his death, the pain, the anger. ... God, sometimes I feel so angry. Sometimes months or years go by before someone experiences anger. I think Im finally angry at him, after five months. Im mad, sad ... he took my bet friend with him ... all my hopes and dreams; he took our future too, and left me with this awful flashback of finding him. Im mad he was so weak. He really had nothing to be sad about. He had money, a beautiful family, a home, toys, work, everything ... except this awful psychosis and minor bipolar disorder that no one knew about. ... Im just angry at the world and dont like anyone or anything except my child. I finally got angry after three years. I was in so much grief, loss trauma and shock. I was just numb and in a fog for three years. It finally all welled up in me and I wrote pages and pages that I plan on burning. I am hoping I will feel all the other emotions since I let loose with the anger. Invariably survivors feel guilty or conflicted when they do experience anger. My husband left me with a lot of unfinished business. I was sitting this morning wondering how he could do that to me and then I think that sounds elfish and I get mad at myself for feeling that way. Too many different feelings. Yesterday was a good day. Last night was horrible. This morning I just feel sick to my stomach and I want to crawl in a hole. Its the fact that they made the choice to leave us. To walk out on us. I get very conflicted sometimes just thinking about it. Source: AllianceOfHopeForSuicideSurvivors
Posted on: Wed, 10 Sep 2014 13:10:01 +0000
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