TAKE TIME TO READ CAN YOU EVER TRUST A CHEATER? Cheater! Cheater! Cheater! Have you been cheated? How did it make you feel? Cheating seems to be accepted as a norm. Some students cheat during exams. (I used to be one of them.) Some spouse cheat on their partners. Some employees cheat their bosses. Some business people cheat on their taxes. Some people cheat on their diets. Some politicians cheat on election day. Why Do Cheaters Cheat? Some say, “I cannot resist it.” “The temptation is so overwhelming.” “I am just weak.” “I am just human, who has needs.” People can make up all type of excuses but this is how I look at it. Cheaters cheat because of selfishness. They don’t think about others but they think only about themselves. They are only concern about their needs, desires and ambitions. We do not anymore get surprised when we hear people cheat. We become immune to it and expect it as a common practice. This is really sad, because nobody want to be cheated. Even the cheat do not want to be cheated. There is a saying “Robbers hate their co-robbers.” “Ang magnanakaw ay galit sa kapwa magnanakaw.” Do not do unto others, what you don’t want others to do unto you. If you want people to be faithful with you, you must also be faithful. If you want others to be honest with you, you must also be honest. Cheating is simply a betrayal of trust. You can expect your enemy to cheat you but you least expect this from a friend, a love one or someone you really trust. Being cheated on by someone you trust is really painful. As I always say, “The people who are closest to us, are the people who can hurt us the most.” If you had been a victim, it erodes your ability to trust others. You tend to become more cautious and sometimes cynical. Assuming that everyone can be a potential cheater. You have a hard time giving your complete trust, since you want to protect yourself from being hurt again. What Does Cheating Do? CHEATING DESTROYS YOUR INTEGRITY As I have learned from a tycoon, never transact with anyone whom is scrupulous. In other words, never transact with anyone whom you cannot trust. You do not want to trust your hard earned income with people you can’t trust. CHEATING DESTROYS RELATIONSHIPS It took years to develop relationship whether it may be personal, professional or relational. But it only take seconds to destroy it. Sometimes it may take time to regain the broken trust. Sometimes it is beyond repair. CHEATING HAS LONG-TERM CONSEQUENCE Allow me to end with this story. A husband went out with some old friends to a party. He met a woman from the party, they got drunk and had a one night stand. Years passed until he discovered that he contracted AIDS. He was full of regret, because this was the only time that he was unfaithful to his wife. If you think that was bad but what was worst, when he realized that his wife also got infected because of his unfaithfulness. Cheating has really long-term consequences. THINK. REFLECT. APPLY. Think before you cheat. Think about the people you care about and love. Think about the future not only the now. How will it affect them when you cheat? How will it affect their name and reputation? How will it also affect their relationship with you? Have you ever cheated someone? Have you said sorry to them? If not, what are you planning to do about it? If you want to change, you must admit to your mistake. Apologize and accept the consequence it might bring. Take responsibility for the harm you have done. If you cant do this there is a good chance that a cheat will cheat again.
Posted on: Mon, 11 Aug 2014 16:11:24 +0000
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