TALK “TO” INSTEAD OF “ABOUT” It is now almost a cliché to say “no one is perfect”. Of a truth, no one is. We all have our faults and weaknesses no matter how perfect we seem and there are several ways of correcting our mistakes or making amends and by the Grace of God, doing away with our bad habits and becoming better. There is a word in the dictionary I love so much called “synergy”. Everyone putting their heads together to produce something great. A proverb holds that “no be one person dey train pikin”. Aside that, One major characteristic of the society is communication. Without communication, the world will be a very boring place to live in. God was not foolish when he kept us in the midst of people. We all need each other to succeed and become better. My point here is, when you see someone, your friend, family, neighbour, etc. going wrong or doing the wrong thing, please do well to call the person to order. It is now very common in our society, especially the Christian folks, to see a brethren going wrong and ignore the person. “After all it’s not my business” we would say. But think of it a little; is it really not our business? There are times when I have done something wrong and people, Christians, see me and ignore it like it was not their business and most annoyingly, I hear it from someone else. Too bad. When you see someone going wrong, wearing the wrong kind of clothes, or possibly behaving “somehow” and you are not comfortable with it or you think such attitude is not good enough, WHATEVER you see in someone that you think should be adjusted, not by your own standard, but both by God’s and moral standard, you have to correct that person constructively and not ignore them or talk “About” it to someone else. It’s not good at all. We are very fond of talking about the wrong things people do without confronting them about it. Funny enough, when you see the falters, you laugh with them like everything was okay. If you will not talk to the person about it then do not even talk to someone else about it. That’s gossip. And it means you do not have the guts to confront the person because if you actually did, you would have confronted the person. Don’t see someone going wrong and ignore the person. If you see me going wrong, please correct me the best way you seem right. Truth is bitter though. Personally, I am a very strong critic and I am very good at it. My friends know that (Lovina thinks i criticize her a lot). I love perfection. I know that each time I see something wrong, I always want to talk about it. If I cannot do it, probably because I think the person is much older or would not listen, I usually talk to someone closer to the person concerned. Not as gossip, but for the person to reach out to the person(s) concerned in correction. But if I had my way I would have done it myself. Corrections and criticisms can be constructive. You do not have to go and tell the person how so devilish he/she is. No. Do it constructively and in the most loving manner possible (like I am learning to). Please and please, when you see me going wrong, do well to correct me. Don’t just ignore! When you see someone cat walking to hell, please talk “to” the person instead of “about” the person. Merci!
Posted on: Tue, 16 Dec 2014 08:34:07 +0000
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