THE TOO INDEPENDENT WOMAN SYNDROME(must read) in-de-pen-dent 1. Not influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct, etc; thinking or acting for oneself 2. Not subject to another’s authority or jurisdiction; autonomous; free Going by definition 1 I think many would say there is nothing wrong with being independent. Definition 2, I can find many issues with but let us just focus on 1 for today. Personally I love an independent woman. I respect them and appreciate who they are. It is definitely something that would catch my attention and make you more attractive. Once you’re my woman, kill that independent woman crap! : ) Seriously, once you have a man then it is time to allow him to step up and do his job of properly taking care of you. Unfortunately it does not happen like that for many women. Why? Because they suffer from what I call Independent Woman Syndrome. That’s right ladies; some of you have this issue and may not realize it. It is hindering you in relationships and in even trying to find a relationship. So how could being an independent woman which I first praised, turn out to be so bad? Well let me give you a couple of symptoms so you can better understand the issue. You try to do everything yourself – don’t get me wrong, I commend and love that you can hold your own. I applaud that you don’t make yourself a burden to others and have learned to handle business correctly on your own. The problem is you are making things harder on yourself. You are allowing more stress and mental fatigue to enter your life when it is not always as necessary as you make it seem. If you truly do not have anyone to help, then ok. For those of you in a relationship then there is no excuse. That man is supposed to be there to lighten the load and help keep you feeling as best as you can. A lot of the men want to help, but your Independent woman syndrome causes you to deny his attempts. You not only make it harder for you in the present, but if you have married or end up marrying this guy you have now set yourself up for more frustration. You are basically programming this man that you can do it on your own. So do not be surprised when he continues to assume “she got this”. Most women if not all women want a man who can step up, but if every time he tries you basically tell him to sit his ass down, well guess what he will now automatically do. You have a hard time giving respect – what I mean by this is that, when you get so wrapped up into being an independent woman, you are not as easily impressed. So if someone or more importantly a man does something that you feel you could have easily done, you are not going to applaud it or respect it the same. You figure you could have done it, no big deal, so he should be able to do it. When he looks for that appreciation or admiration from you, you are going to look at him like “what, you want a cookie” lol, such a sarcastic line. In doing that, you decrease your ability to do something that most men need from their woman, stroke his ego. You have to let a man feel like a man, or you can do some serious damage to him and the relationship. Not to mention, many women who suffer from IWS (Independent Woman Syndrome) also can become very aggressive in how they speak to their man. If you are quick to come at him in a negative way, and are constantly “chopping his balls” when he does something you do not like or approve of, then trust there is going to be a problem. Many times a man who is constantly having his manhood crushed by his woman well then look for any opportunity to assert himself and get his nuts back. Unfortunately, men tend to do that at the very wrong time and in not a smart way. Which then leads to more issues, but had you not chopped them off so much in the first place, well then we could have avoided the whole problem all
Posted on: Thu, 15 Aug 2013 18:23:41 +0000
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