Thismay not have worked to save my marriage but it may save your marriage: !: 7 Secrets for Fixing Your Marriage. In this report youll discover secrets for saving and restoring your marriage. Lets get started. SECRET 1: PUT YOUR PROBLEMS ASIDE If youre reading a report about how to save your marriage, youre probably expecting to learn problem-solving strategies, communication techniques, and insights about gender differences. Do I have a SURPRISE for you! The key to renewing your marriage is NONE of those things. How do I know this? Because I experienced it! Unlike other relationship experts who approach the topic from a clinical perspective, for me saving and restoring marriages is also very personal. Ive been where you are now. Id like to share with you my story. My wife and I started out deeply in love. I remember staying up all night talking, surprising each other with thoughtful gifts, and speaking to each other in code words. You know the feeling of really being connected? That was us. But then something happened that destroys most marriages. We had a son who died when he was one week old. And then we had twin daughters, who also died as newborns. Understandably, my wife became depressed. I coped by immersing myself in work. We ran from each other emotionally. Your situation probably was not so tragic, but something happened. What was it? How did you lose each other? Maybe you cant put your finger on it, but something is definitely not right. Thats common too. For us, after losing 3 children, everything felt different. Instead of talking all night, it was a chore to talk for a few minutes. Instead of using our code words, we used curse words. Our relationship consisted of screaming matches and silent treatments. Somewhere deep in our hearts though, like you, we knew we didnt want to lose each other. So we made a commitment to work on our marriage. Sometimes I tried and my wife didnt. Sometimes my wife tried and I didnt. We went through different stages of trying. What did we try? We tried the obligatory, Honey, let me repeat what you said to make sure I understood you correctly. We applied conflict resolution strategies. My wife learned about Mars and I learned about Venus. We even went to therapy to wrestle with our problems. But guess what. Nothing changed. Nothing worked. All the advice (books, counselors, whatever) asked us to confront our problems. But that just made us feel worse. And fight more. As long as the right way wasnt working, why not be dysfunctional? So we tried to convince each other of our way. Youve tried that too, right? Obviously, that doesnt work. Then we had a breakthrough. We decided to SET ASIDE OUR PROBLEMS. We didnt talk about them at all. We didnt bring them up even once. Instead, we put our energy into trying to connect. We used certain relationship techniques that transformed our marriage. Not only did we resolve our differences; we fell in love again! And we did it not by dealing with our problems (as serious as they were), but by establishing new relationship habits that brought positive energy to our marriage. This is the solution to most marital situations! Believe it or not, the secret is to STEP AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS and spend your time and energy doing specific relationship building activities. Its counter-intuitive, but if you do this, most of your problems will dissipate, the threat of divorce will go away, and the other people invading your marriage will become irrelevant. Liz, before you deal with your problems, you first have to build good will with your spouse. And this is doable even in the most difficult marital situations. Liz, if your marriage is stressed, do NOT tackle your problems. Stop talking about the affair, the attention youre not getting, or whatever. If your timing is off, trying to solve your problems will damage your marriage and make it LESS LIKELY that youll ever find resolution. Now you can see why the Marriage Fitness program is fundamentally different from any other approach to relationship success. Its not about conflict-resolution or communication skills because these are NOT the key to saving a marriage. The key is NOT to fix whats wrong. The key is to make new things right. And there are, in fact, specific things you can do, with or without your spouse, to make things right in your marriage. And the Marriage Fitness program offers you a step-by-step system for doing just that. It also teaches you how to temporarily put aside the problems and issues that are weighing you down and making it impossible for you to establish a new momentum in your marriage. The program works for any marriage even if only one spouse does it. And the best news is that you dont have to dig into your past, dredge up your problems, or practice communication techniques. This is not marriage counseling; its Marriage Fitness.
Posted on: Sun, 16 Mar 2014 13:29:37 +0000
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