Today I spoke with a somatic experiencing practitioner, that I am working with, about a dynamic that I am in with someone, where the common response to being triggered within the dynamic, from my perspective, is for this person to distance, separate and/or disappear from the relationship. And he says, You mean this person DISSOCIATES from the relationship? I said, What? And asked him if he could repeat what he said, because I had never ever heard anyone refer to dissociation and relationship in the same sentence. I had heard of dissociation, but not FROM A RELATIONSHIP. And, he said, Yeah, its totally a defense strategy for trauma survivors. Instead of staying in the heat of the relationship, and engaging in the healthy process of problem solving and collective negotiations, they will DISSOCIATE FROM the RELATIONSHIP, as a way to not have to be with the pain that arises, from the trauma that has been evoked. Its easier to dissociate then stay in the heat of negotiation. It centers on their ability and willingness to trust another, when their trust was broken and violated at a very young age. I was FLOORED by that reframe!
Posted on: Thu, 03 Apr 2014 04:46:32 +0000
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