Troubles with older stepdaughters for this newly married BonusMom. Any advice or comforting words? Hi I am new to the page and was hoping you could post this so maybe I could get some suggestions. Im at a complete loss as to what to do at this point and its breaking my heart. I am a new official step mom as of 2 weeks ago. I have been in my husbands three daughters life for the past 4 years. Things were rocky at first when I was introduced to the children but gradually over time things seem to get better. They started to trust me to help them with things and I thought they had finally accepted me as a part of their family. Starting a few weeks before the wedding my husbands middle daughter has become very angry with her father and I. She has somehow gotten in her head that now that her father and I are married we will never do anything for her again. She knows that her father and I plan on having children at some point in the near future and originally seemed happy and fine about it. She expressed to her father a few days ago that if he has another child he should not expect her to come around anymore. She also stated that I give her dirty looks when she is at our home which is completely untrue. My husband knows Ive not done this but that still doesnt make the situation any easier. Its so hard to have tried and helped and still be thought of as the enemy . My husband is very upset because he feels like he has lost a daughter and does not know what to do and I have no words to comfort his feelings of loss . His oldest daughter has never really cared for me even though Ive gone above and beyond to try and help her with some situation she has gotten herself into. The only battle Im winning at this point is his youngest daughter loves me and the defends me to her sisters and mother. She is the only one who ever truly took the time to get to know me. All I ever wanted was for us to be a family and I feel like that will never happen. If it matters his daughters are 17 18 and 22. I know that they have some issue of the age difference between their father and I but by now I thought they would have seen the type of person I am and not an age. For the record I am 26 and my husband is 40. Please if you have any advice I could really use it. Thanks.
Posted on: Fri, 15 Nov 2013 20:47:10 +0000