Well.....I told Brenda, that I wouldnt put any more family stuff on facebook, about my mom. Other than toward the end of my visit with Mom, we had a fun discussion, after my sister in-law left. Before she left, she told me I was not compassionate, for wanting mom to get out of her chair, without help. She has been doing it all week, and I just think that if she doesnt push herself at home, and at therapy, she is doomed to one of those one room nursing home facilities, where they put old folks in wheel chairs in the hallway, and wait for them to die, after letting them sit in their own poop for hours, until the aids cant stand the smell anymore. She also accused me of getting gas money from mom, so I could visit and help her out. I got 20 dollars from mom in 2009 at the Toyota dealership, and let me top up my tank, at her latest stay in the hospital. I was also accused of seeing too many doctors, and should cut down on my medicine. I have a family physician, who prescribes a stomach pill for gerd, and a psychiatrist, at the University of Chicago, that has people flying to him from all over the world prescribing me the best he knows how, who told me to spend less time dealing with stress, or he was going to have to institutionalize me, and get my meds regulated again. My sister in-law thought institutionalizing me would be a good idea. This is the same person, who told me I had no compassion. I was then accused of having sports cars, that burn gobs of gas. What she didnt, and probably still doesnt understand, is gas mileage for the most part is dictated by a power to weight ratio. That is why all the auto makers are putting powerful little engines into the average shitbox, that is sold today. The Corvette gets 28 on the highway, and the Porsche gets around 25, because it is heavier. I was then told the master plan was mom going to rehab until medicare stops paying, then put her in the nursing home, until she gets healthy enough for an assisted living apartment(which mom wants, but doubtful) I have never seen ANYONE get better once they are put in a nursing facility. The bottom line is to leave her in the nursing home until she dies. Mom and I discussed this situation many times, and if that was her only choice, she would prefer to die at home. This is from the same group who put dad on a feeding tube, to extend his misery with his cancers. Mom had some input on this too, but I suspect she was swayed by the experts advice also. Now all these people, who were able to relieve their guilt with a few 15 minute phone calls a week, while I was in the trenches, are making the master plan for moms probable short future, now that she is sick. My brother is doing the best he can, but accused me of crying wolf a couple of weeks ago, but the wolf is here looking him in the face. With the advice of his wife, but after talking with her today, I think he could do better finding out on his own about the nursing homes, instead of listening to someone who really just wants the situation to end, no matter what mom wants. The end of my night was capped off with Brenda telling me that my sister Chris, who is second in line to the throne, was upset with what I wrote, and ended up doing the mature thing, after I told her the truth about my life, and relationship with my father, in general, and hung up on me, and wouldnt pick up the phone, when I tried calling back. I have left a lot out of my choice experiences with you, but I didnt lie, on this ongoing situation. I imagine there is a vote going on now, to get me out of the family, but as long as I am trying to do what mom wants to do, that is all I care. Let the chips fall where they may. I hope they really know what they are doing, and that going to church all week will not buy them out of the place souls are sent, who intentionally do what they want instead of their parent. I am not going to write about this anymore, because it is getting ugly, and the siblings are fighting among themselves. Please just pray for mom, and her children. Thanks for all your support. I will probably transfer this to my journal, that I am keeping on this, in a couple of days, so please dont comment on this. I cant sleep well now, knowing mom could be in danger by herself.
Posted on: Thu, 09 Oct 2014 02:58:54 +0000
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