When Im critical of people, I try to be very specific about it, even in jokes. Because identifying little specific faults makes it easier for me to properly appreciate peoples strengths and navigate through social situations. And -little- things just seem less crushing for people to hear about themselves, and easier to fix. I know I like clear, falsifiable, constructive criticisms best. If a criticism could be interpreted too broadly, I try to paint the boundaries with assurances and positives. ... This is a little bit harder to work into jokes. So thats why I try not to josh with people unless were close, because then we develop our own ways of getting that. I honestly have trouble even thinking things about people that I wouldnt be comfortable telling them. This is why people taking things too personally can be especially draining for me. It can make me uncomfortable just trying to -think- straight.
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 20:22:39 +0000
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