When we do things that we dont want to do, but we do them to keep others happy, we are: Being a People Pleaser, Being weak-willed, Allowing others to push us into things that we dont believe in. Giving people permission to laugh at us behind our back, and permission push us around in the future. Losing respect for ourself. Allowing others to lose respect for us... etc. The end result is that we will dislike our own self for being so weak-minded. But more importantly, the people who are pushing us around Will Not Respect Us Even If We Do What It Is That They Want. Doing what others demand of us, that we dont agree with, is a no win situation for us. The only way out of that situation is the tough one. You have got to stand your ground and state your beliefs firmly, strongly, defiantly, and with all your heart and soul. And we must show that we will not be pushed around anymore by following our statements with actions. The actions prove to the others that you will never allow them to do it again. If we let family and friends push us around then we set ourselves up for being abused for the rest of our lives. Other people will come along and will sense how weak-minded we are, and then they will make us dependent on them and they will have their way with us, and then discard us when they are finished. We will lead a life of being pushed around and misery. Being a slave because of lack of courage doesnt seem much fun does it? And neither does people in the future coming along to use us as we were abused as a young person. You must stand up against this and Break The Cycle! If you dont break the cycle your own children will despise how weak you are, or they will copy you and be weak for all of their lives. The abusers will always see us as weak-willed, a push-over, a sucker, and they will continue to push us against our own beliefs for the rest of our lives, even after we have left home. People respect us when we stand strong. They may not want to admit it out loud but they do. And they are sorry that they havent got the courage or self control to do the things that you do and stand up for what you believe in. Sometimes they rally around us and attack because of their intense jealousy (they have only the courage to attack in groups, while you fight alone). But be sure of this, they Will Not Respect Us Even If We Do What It Is That They Want. If you want respect and to be treated fairly then you must do what is right in your heart and soul. And please dont be a slave to other peoples opinions. Most of all, you will feel so relieved and happy with yourself for standing up and expressing your true feelings, and then backing those truths up with actions. Sure standing up for what you believe in rocks the boat, but life is like that anyway. So get out there and rock the boat, your heart and future will love you so much for it, and thank you forever. All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Posted on: Tue, 28 Jan 2014 09:44:40 +0000
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