Who To Marry: The Need For Patience Life could be so frustrating when at the time of having a thing; you cannot have it when your search seems to be futile. It will be so confusing when options around you seem to be like the right thing you are looking for. In this kind of situation, patience is so much needed so that one would not end up choosing the wrong thing despite the years of patience that has been exercised. Who to marry is one clear example of this situation. It is occasioned with frustration, disheartening moments, anxiety and worries when your age mates are already married. Marriage is an institution, a lifelong relationship that has only one entry and no exit point. The Creator made it so, so that godly seeds would be raised. Since it is not man made institution, you need to carefully plan, prepare and be patient to get it right. Once the wrong step is made, it would affect the fulfillment of ones destiny, eternity and happiness for the rest of ones life. The reasons to wait on God for a marital partner cannot be over-emphasized. It is more beneficial than to choose based on status, fame, pressure or on ones understanding. The followings are the reasons why you need to be patient because impatience will make you: 1. Marry the wrong person Had I know is one of the terrible statements of regret which most people make in a bad marriage. Due to pressure and other factors, many would marry the wrong person and would in turn ruin their emotional life and career. The worst thing that can ever happen to a person after hell is marrying the wrong person. 2. Marry outside Gods will The thought of God towards us is for good and to give us an expected end. No matter how delayed it may seem for the right person to come your way, it is better not to miss the will of God martially. Many would miss Gods perfect will and settle for the good will due to impatience. The perfect will of God cannot be anywhere compared to the other kinds of His will (acceptable, good). 3. Live with regrets It is better not to have regret in ones life than to nurse one. Regrets would forever mar ones life even though years may have elapsed. A bad marriage is worse than hell because the pain will not be erased from the memory. 4. Become desperate Impatience will make you go too far in search of a spouse. Going for a blind date, match making or online dating, putting up ads for a life mate in newspapers are sometimes the effect of impatience. Some females would sometimes push themselves on men or create a scene through ungodly dressing so that they can be noticed. The outcome of desperation will lead to regrettable consequence. While exercising patience would you just stay hopeless without doing anything? Nay! Ensure to do the following: Improve your character The best time to build your character is while you are single. Marriage can be defined as the coming together of two people with different characters who would live together as one. For oneness to occur there must be a blend in their character. The area of being caring, trustworthy, patient, gentle and the likes must be developed. In fact you can get a list of the fruit of the spirit in the Bible as a list of character to develop in your life. This will help you enjoy life and have a good relationship. Work on your temperament I wouldnt want to bore you with the 4 types of temperament, but in essence, your thought and behavioral pattern has an influence in your relationship. Endeavor to work on your mood and feelings no matter the situations. Your level of tolerance, anger management and patience must be improved so that it doesnt become an issue when you marry. Discover your purpose of existence and pursue it A life without a purpose is like fighting with the air. If you dont have a course you are living for in life, you will live for every course. Know the reason behind your existence on earth and work towards achieving it. Marriage without knowing your purpose in life will make your relationship boring and empty. This is why it is good you marry someone with like purpose in life so that you can grow together. Be ready As athletes warm up before running a race, so is it important to get ready for a relationship while you are patiently waiting on God. This entails becoming mentally (by reading good relationship books and learning from people), spiritually (having an intimate relationship with God), financially (getting a good source of income or profitable business), emotionally (being able to manage your mood and feelings) and materially (possessing the things that would sustain a relationship) fit before going into marriage. How will I wait when my age is ticking, parents mounting pressure, age mates all getting married and some with kids? The truth is: delay is not denial. It is better to be late and have a good marriage than to be impatient and have a bad one which would affect your entire life. Remember, a bad marriage is worse than hell. So be patient! Don’t be desperate and marry the wrong person.
Posted on: Thu, 08 Jan 2015 19:28:13 +0000
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