Years ago I read a book called, The Relief of Imperfection. It freed me in immediate ways, and others I wouldnt discover for years. Immediately it freed me from expecting too much of myself, feeling let down by my self, & enabled me to be honest with myself about what I CAN & can not do, or be, or handle. I learned to know my limitations and live by them. Today I realize this a bigger gift than i knew at the time, as I encounter people who lie to themselves and others about themselves. Why do they do it? They do it because they havent accepted that its okay to NOT be the ideal. They secretly hold the idea that they DO fall short of the ideal, and try as they might to convince themselves, and the world around them that they ARE better than their reality, the truths of that will be discovered. When that happens, it destroys trust in relationships. Ive always liked and admired people who are able to own their shortcomings, especially those that will effect others on their lives. Like the roommate who brings random guys back to your shared room comes to mind... IF, up front she tells you shes a slore & will do that, you have the opportunity to set guidelines. If not, it will interfere and surprise and disrupt & drama ensues. Just BE real. Be honest with yourself first, then own your stuff with others & let them decide whether that fault is something they want to include in their lives. Dont sell people a bum bill of goods knowing you cant deliver. Its just rude, selfish, dishonest, & who knows, they might be OK with that thing you felt the need to hide.
Posted on: Wed, 03 Dec 2014 13:47:11 +0000
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