Yesterday I was talking with someone about addictions and how for some people it takes even more time and effort to find a new way of doing things without the substance OR behavior that is addicting. It got me to thinking more deeply on this subject....why some people turn to substances or behavior, and others do not, to quiet their demons will probably always be a mystery. Some may have what they call addictive personality traits and that may very well be the answer. I think theres more to it....because Ive seen people with so called addictive personality traits kick a habit with little difficulty. Maybe part of it is a person can only do what they know....or what theyve been taught.....what theyve witnessed. So until a person learns differently, they will continue to follow the same ways. The ~desire~ to learn a new way is always fueled differently for each person and sometimes that desire never surfaces. Whichever way it manifests, IS the lesson. One of the keys is knowledge of alternatives and then learning those alternatives. ~~~Learning that life can be satisfying and safe without the addiction is a big step.~~~ Its been my experience that a lot of addicted persons are afraid....fear.....fear of the unknown.....like I said its behavior that they know and without it, would be something unknown. Just being there for someone struggling through an addiction is a big help, but never push them. Pushing will usually always make it worse. Being pushed MAY be the reason they turned to a substance or a behavior. And if that desire never surfaces in a person that you love or care for, just KNOW that it is not your fault, its not YOUR battle. Stand by his/her side, but its NOT YOUR battle.
Posted on: Mon, 28 Jul 2014 17:36:47 +0000
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