----- Forwarded Message ----- To: Holiday Inn, Nicosia Subject: Nikolas Neofytou, F&B Controller, 2009-2010 Dear Sir I write with regard to the above-named member of your staff who was your F&B Controller from 2009-2010. I write because this man has used my name constantly to explain his actions, while I was in a relationship with him from 2009-2012. I understand he used my name in his explanation, when he left your company and handed his notice in. He claimed he left the job because of me, to make me happy and he cared for this relationship and wanted to put my happiness first, and that I wanted to move away from Nicosia. This is actually false and it is unfair he used my name for this reason. I was not the reason he left this role. My only involvement was that I gave him the courage to leave a job he told me he did not like, was not happy in and, towards the end of his job, he was not even getting paid. But I was not the reason he left. I simply gave him the courage to do something about a job he constantly told me he did not like. He was so unhappy in this job that, in fact, I spent hundreds of pounds worth of calls to him, when I lived apart from him in the UK for 10 months, to make him feel better and supported and not so alone. He claimed he had no money to make calls himself as the job did not pay him enough to cover both his bills living in Nicosia and calls to me. He claimed he was very unhappy and very lonely and very depressed while working with you. I also made constant, expensive flights to be with him in Nicosia while he worked for Holiday Inn. I was not the reason he left, however. He should not have used my name in his leaving this role. In fact, he had been looking to leave your company prior to when he actually did. He and his family had applied for him to work with the Cyprus Tourist Board. They had, in fact, requested all the required paperwork and Nikolas had started exams for his application. I was not even aware of this until I moved to Cyprus permanently in December 2010 to be with him. I discovered this when I arrived and had no idea this was a plan of his. This intention to work for the Cyprus Tourist Board had absolutely nothing to do with me, or our relationship. It was at odds with what Nikolas told me prior to my moving to Cyprus in that, together, we would simply try Cyprus, to see if it was suitable for us as a couple. Prior to my moving there permanently, we had also considered England as Nikolas had expressed that he did not want to be in Cyprus anymore, he wanted to be with me in the UK. But we had decided to try Cyprus, as I believed it held equal opportunities and was a place where I could invest in my future security, just as I could in England, and we could try Paphos as an alternative to living in Nicosia, where Nikolas was unhappy, and where I did not see myself living. It was clear Nikolas wanted to leave his job long before he did, so I thought it was a matter of time before he did this once I moved there. I moved there permanently in December 2010 to be with Nikolas and to try Cyprus. But I was not the reason he left this role. As you can imagine, I was shocked to discover that, without my knowledge, he had applied for a job with the Cyprus Tourist Board arranged by his parents and his family, and it seemed he was very willing to take a job with them and very happy about this, should he be successful. This job could have taken him anywhere in the world, apparently. And when he explained this to me, only once I had moved to Cyprus, he did so without reassuring me he saw me as a part of the plan, or how good this would be for us. It was clear he did not. Yet, by that time, I had moved my life to be with him. His application to work for them had absolutely nothing to do with me or our relationship or what we had agreed. He had not even discussed it with me. And he applied for this towards the end of his time working at the Holiday Inn. (He ultimately did not see through the exam process as it was intensive and he believed competition would be too fierce - that is what he told me anyway when I encouraged him to see it through). (For the record, I often helped Nikolas in his work for the Holiday Inn, I would frequently be at home doing Excel spreadsheets and updating food lists - I still have these on my computer - and I did this without complaint, I just wanted to help him. I did not have to do this with my time, I just did. I supported him wholly. He has complained to many people that I am anti social which was why he left the relationship after so many years - but he did not have a problem with me not spending time with my own friends while I lived with him in Cyprus, nor while I stood by his side in Nicosia when he had no friends around him at that time and needed support). Anyway, it is good to set the record straight, I feel very strongly about this when my name is involved and a skewed impression of events - and a skewed impression of me - might be created through things Nikolas has said. When this happens, all kinds of other things can be said about me; in this particular instance, I have been accused by his family of making him leave this job (only after the relationship, of course, not while I was with him) which I find bizarre as it was his family who had applied for a job for him with the Cyprus Tourist Board and they must have been aware he was unhappy at the Holiday Inn, just as I was. Kind regards - and Im sorry to bother you.
Posted on: Wed, 13 Nov 2013 23:57:59 +0000
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