12 Stupid Things Truly Nice People Don’t Do Im just going to say it. There is a huge lack of nice people out there. And its sad because being nice really isnt that hard. Its common sense, but unfortunately, common sense isnt that common nowadays. I also find that that there are a lot of fake people out there as they put on the facade of being nice and super positive. They try to show that theyre willing to help others when its all just an act. Alas, it is sad. The rest of us, also known as the nice ones have to put in the effort to protect ourselves from the not-so-nice crowd. This post is to help you become a nice person and also be wary of the crappy people out there. 12 stupid things nice people dont do 1) They dont do nice things just to reel in favours In my experience as a blogger, Ive encountered a lot of nice people whore very willing to help you out at the start. But they do it because they work with an extreme, Ive scratched your back. Now youve to scratch mine mentality. You can bet that these people will be back to call in some favours, which are usually out of proportion. Truly nice people dont do that. They do that to only help. Period. So if you want to help, do it for the sake of spreading the positivity. Nothing more, nothing less. 2) They dont try too hard As long as you try too hard, people can tell. People will be able to see right through you and youd come across as really needy or downright annoying. You cant even try too hard to be nice. It doesnt work that way. Be nice, but be comfortable with it too. People would respect you more. 3) They dont react negatively when things dont go their way This is really stupid to me. I know quite a few people who do nice things, but are really insecure people. When things dont go their way, they immediately start to whine and sulk or even get angry. How then, are you really nice that way? If you want to be nice, be mature about it too. Dont be a kid. 4) They dont broadcast to the whole world that theyre nice In extension to the previous point, insecure people need to validate themselves to others. In this case, they have to let others know that theyre nice people. They have to let others know about the good things theyve done which comes across as very pretentious. Just like how nice people dont do nice things for favours, nice people dont put on a show. 5) They dont keep screwing up I once encountered a guy who wanted to pick a fight with me. It didnt happen because his own friends pulled him away. After that, everyone was telling me, Oh hes actually a nice guy. I find this extremely ironic. Ive heard this excuse countless times. Honestly, it does not excuse bad behaviour. Nobody is perfect, but nice people put in the effort to learn from their mistakes and change for the better. Nice people also know how to apologize (I did not get one). 6) They dont insist that theyre right Speaking of (the lack of) apologies, I find that there are people out there who would go on a tirade just to show that theyre right. They dont like it that theyre wrong even though its not a big deal at all. Or worse, therere people who would go all out to cover up their mistake. If youre wrong, just admit it. It would show that youre nice because you have humility. If you try too hard to cover it up, people would be able to see right through you anyway. 7) They are not nice to a fault Being nice should never be confused with being weak. You should never become submissive just because you want to be nice for the sake of being nice. So stand up for yourself. If someone isnt nice to you, say something or just walk away. Dont give in to bad folks. This is for your own good. If youre nice, then you deserve a good life. 8) They dont stick their nose in on others business Some people are just well, too helpful. They end up giving unwanted opinions or doing things that end up being a bother. Have you come across people like that before? As good as your intentions may be, youve to accept the fact that some people just dont want your help at all. They may be simply confused, not ready or just want to go about their own way. So let it go. The entire world is not your responsibility. 9) They dont go back on their word Its way too easy to show that youre nice. All you have to do is talk because talk is cheap. Thats how you create an image of niceness. Its also easy to NOT follow up and NOT take action. You cant truly be a nice person if youre all fluff! 10) They dont disappear after acting super nice Have you ever been treated in a really nice way, been told the most flowery things ever and then pitched a product or service? If you answered yes, then you were being sold. And more often than not, the nice sales person will disappear right after he takes your money. Whether money or sales are in play or not, a truly nice person would be there for you. He or she knows that being nice is about.... simply being nice! Its not just a means to an end! 11) They dont treat people they dont know like crap One of favourite quotes: If someone is nice to you but rude to the waiter, they are not a nice person. Its the same as, Oh hes really nice to people he likes. Thats not a nice person. Thats just somebody who has placed himself on a pedestal. So treat people with respect now. Its the human thing to do. 12) They dont think that theyre perfect Because nobody is perfect. That means to say, you can always be better and you can always improve. Due to different cultures and personalities, a person may appreciate your being nice, but another may not. I think then, that the next crucial factor is whether youre willing to humble yourself to keep on learning and appreciate others perspective, or be completely stubborn and insist that youve nothing to learn. That doesnt sound very nice does it? Special bonus for Pick The Brain Readers I hope you enjoyed the article! To say thanks for reading it, I’m going to let you in on my new book. It’s free! 12 Things Happy People Don’t Give a F**K About! Time to shed the crap in life and start being happy! This free book is available through this link to Alden Tan. Alden Tan keeps it real at his blog and writes about motivation in unconventional ways. His two main passions are Bboying and writing. The post 12 Stupid Things Truly Nice People Don’t Do appeared first on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement.
Posted on: Mon, 14 Jul 2014 15:37:11 +0000
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