25 Reasons to Forgive: I remind myself how much forgiveness means to me when I make mistakes I forgive for my benefit. I forgive for my own peace of mind. I imagine them as they were as a child. I wonder what happened to make them like they are. I remember that we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have available at the time I stay in the present in my mind. I refuse to have thoughts of ‘what happened’. When they come up I remind myself that its past and I return to the present. I don’t make myself forgive. But I refuse to act on my anger. Instead I am soft with myself and let time be my healer. I smile because I survived. I tell myself how resilient I am. I am a survivor I give up on all hope of a better past I remember ‘they’ too are human and we all make mistakes. I forgive myself for giving my power away to ‘them’ even if I was too small to realize it. I protect myself by rebuilding my boundaries for the future I ask myself ‘if this had happened for my higher good, what would my higher good want me to know” I find a safe way to express my unspoken emotions and I let it all out. Every toxic thought and every unspoken word. Then I let it go. I remember that so many other people have felt this kind of pain and I send all those people a loving blessing. I remember the stories of people who have forgiven their enemies, those who inflicted pain on them or someone they loved or worse. If they can forgive so can I. In a safe space, I allow myself to feel anything I have numbed. I feel anything that’s left so that I can release it fully. I accept it’s not personal. I know that whatever they said or did or didn’t say and do, it was not about me and it was always about them. I ask myself what I choose ‘pain or pleasure’ and I make a choice. I don’t forgive because I am weak, I forgive because I am strong I forgive because I can’t change my past but I will change my future I affirm that I don’t have to hold on to the pain even if I have the memory I forgive you because you were a ‘warning’ to me and that allows me to be an ‘example’ to others I forgive without bearing a grudge. Otherwise I’m trying to go forward with my foot on the brake. I notice I can forgive in any moment I choose to. I tell the story from the other person’s perspective. I’m not saying it’s easy to forgive. What I am saying is I have never found one stress free way to hold on to not forgiving. francinekaye/25-reasons-to-forgive-even-when-you-really-dont-want-to/
Posted on: Tue, 27 Aug 2013 13:38:27 +0000
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