A breakup of any relationship is devastating for both partners, generally more for one than the other, for the one who did not initiate it. The other partner may have called off the relationship in a huff but may regret later and want the relationship restored. Coping with a broken relationship gets difficult and affects both the partners emotionally. One should realize that disagreements are a ‘way of life’ in any relationship because it involves two different minds and, maybe different cultures and customs as well. If a man feels remorseful about his broken relationship, he should not think of immediately repairing it. He should first sit down and let his true feelings be released fully which could be those of anger, hatred or sadness; it is better he does so alone. He should, then, take time to get composed in his mind. He should not forget to take care of himself and above all, love himself which helps in healing all emotional hurts. He can go visit a support group or his male friends and share out his woes and feelings with them. He should try to divert his mind from the breakup through activities which involve engagements with other people such as doing some social work, pursuing a hobby or attending an event. Thereafter, he should reconsider the breakup and try to analyze whether the broken relationship with his ex-girlfriend should be restored or not because at times, the reason for a breakup makes it irreparable. Once he is settled in his mind that he wants his ex-girlfriend back, he should first know that this is definitely possible. He should then get ready for a fresh start to his relationship; he should think of ways to get his girlfriend back. Before he thinks of doing that, he should make sure that his ex-girlfriend also got substantial time to herself to reflect on the events and get composed in her mind so that she is in a stable mind to respond responsibly to his approaches towards her. During this time of mental healing for both of them, he should not make hasty moves to call on her or giving/sending her flowers i.e. he should cut off all communication with her; this step is very important in repairing broken relationships. The man should not think of making his ex-girlfriend jealous as a step to get her back. A relationship is a serious matter and should not be taken lightly. Once the ex-girlfriend sees her ex-boyfriend with another girl, it will play on her mind constantly and she will not be able to forgive him for the rest of her life. In this way, she will never want to get back into relationship with him or even if she consents to it, she will never forgive him so that there will always be a rift between the two. On the other hand, the girl with whom the man develops a new relationship may not want to leave him so that he is left in a dilemma about restoring his broken relationship with his ex-girlfriend. After refreshing his mind in this way when he finds himself fit for restoring his broken friendship with his ex-girlfriend, he should chalk out his strategy mentally for it; many men in their haste to get their ex-girlfriend back take her for granted and so do things which can put her off permanently. Commitments like ‘he will change after the patch up’, ‘he will always be her friend and will be there for her when she would need him’ and that ‘she will be the only girl in his life ever’ may repair their relationship but this could be temporary and it is likely to break up again. When he goes to meet her, he should make sure that is well groomed and decently dressed. Shabby dressing and unshaven beard send wrong signals of a sloppy lifestyle which may do nothing to bring the two closer; on the contrary she may just leave for good. In other words, he should present himself in a way which she will not be able to resist. Apart from the way he dresses up to meet his ex-girlfriend, he should not only look confident but also display confidence in his behavior with her. He should not look or feel nervous in her presence. No relationship is the same. The reason why one relationship breaks off may be different from another relationship breakup. Accordingly, the man should think of ways to win his ex-girlfriend back. Two things are basic and are important in working out a strategy to restore a broken relationship and these are, first, the length of time for which the relationship went on between the two before the breakup and, secondly, the root cause behind the breakup. Based on the above points, the man can gauge how long it will take him to woo his ex-girlfriend back to himself. It is observed that if the relationship was a long one then the man has more time to talk to her and get her back to him. On the other hand, if the relationship was short-lived, then he has less time to get her back to him.
Posted on: Wed, 19 Mar 2014 05:25:50 +0000
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