A few days ago, a woman i know posted an image with the following quote on her Instagram: “Until a man is completely satisfied with where he is in his life…he could never make a woman his #1 priority because he hasn’t met the goals that he has set for himself.” Her caption read: “Is anyone really completely satisfied? Sigh…so many women wait…patiently, impatiently, hoping, praying for something to happen.” And as I read that, two questions quickly popped into my head. One, if this statement is true, how long have things been this way? Two, is it that men need to be accomplished in order to settle down, or is it that women require men to be accomplished in order to be considered a good man to settle down with? To answer the first question, I actually do believe that the quote in the picture is accurate. In today’s world, most ambitious men prioritize accomplishing their goals ahead of engaging in a serious relationship. But, the second part of that is analyzing how long men have been thinking like that, because it’s not an old-school mentality. If we Just look at our families, we will see numerous stories of our parents and grandparents struggling together, while creating a life for themselves and their children. This ranges from immigrants coming to a new land with little more than a couple of dollars in their pockets and a dream, to blue-collar parents that had to bust their asses to put food on the table. These men looked at family as the inspiration for hard work — not a burden preventing them from achieving their goals., So, what changed? Some may think men, simply, decided they wanted to overcome financial insecurity by investing all their time into their professions before building a family. However, I think the truth is a little more complex than that. The answer to the second question is also the big difference between love today and love in the past: Women began to require men to be more accomplished.
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:09:25 +0000
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