A question from our inbox: I’m looking for some encouragement after a frustrating visit with my OB/GYN today. I c-sectioned with my first after going in to labor on my own, no induction, 12 hours of labor, 2 epidurals, doctor broke my water, I dilated to 10 cm and pushed for 2 hours. The doctor said the baby just wasn’t moving down. I was exhausted, uneducated and afraid so I agreed to the c-section. I had a great c-section and recovery compared to what I’ve heard and seen others go through. This was the driving force behind staying with the same doctor for this current pregnancy. I’m afraid I’ve been very wrong all along in staying with him. I’m 36 weeks 3 days today. Every time I see my doctor he says that since I dilated to 10 cm and I couldn’t push my son out that I’m not an ideal candidate for VBAC. He tells me this EVERY TIME I see him! I ask him, “Well can I at least try?” He says yes every time but today at my appointment he finally said he’d prefer me not to. I think deep down I’ve been waiting for this ball to drop. He says a long labor, pushing, this baby will probably be bigger (my son was 7 lbs 12 oz), my weight (I’m 5’3” and 270 lbs) I’ll put a lot of stress on my body and on my daughter and he’ll probably end up sectioning me again and it would be better for me, the baby and him if we just scheduled it before I went into labor on my own. My due date is February 6th. I agreed to schedule a repeat c-section for February 9th. If I go on my own before that I will VBAC. I’ve made some semblance of peace that if I don’t go on my own I’ll repeat c-section on the 9th. I have a doula this time. I’ve prepared so much more mentally and physically for this labor. I really want this. I’m not comfortable switching doctors this late in the pregnancy. My husband, doula, my mother and my sister are all going to be in the room with me and I’ve made it very clear that so long as baby and I are not in danger I will labor as long as I need to and there is to be no talk of epidurals or c-section or any other medical intervention unless it’s life or death. I have a birth plan that my doula says is 110% reasonable and achievable. I’m just so discouraged by my doctor today. My son was sunny side up. I’ve done so much reading on Spinning Babies and I believe my daughter is ROA but occasionally I feel little fingers low and front and that makes me terrified that she is also sunny side up. I believe this was the big problem with my son and the fact that I was epidural’d and flat on the hospital bed. This time I will be up and moving. Seriously, I’m avoiding the bed like the plague. I love my birthing ball and doing big hip circles to get her to engage in my pelvis. My mom made me smile today and said, “WHEN you push this baby out there isn’t going to be a single person in the room spared from a big fat, ‘I TOLD YOU I COULD DO IT!’” She’s totally right! I’m determined, if anything, to prove the doctor wrong. My doula is amazing. I think she and my mom are going to be my driving force and saving grace before, during and after this VBAC delivery. #ICANSupport
Posted on: Mon, 12 Jan 2015 21:29:30 +0000
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