A really good friend reciently explained to me after many hours of discussion, that just because you want to be loved/respected a certain way and may clearly understand define and even speak/ask and/or assertivly express how you need to be loved/respected, does not mean that others have the same understanding or ability to hear you due to their personal perspectives, and also that just because these different does not mean that they do not love and respect you, Its just not how you want or need and you cannot blame some one for that or for not being able to apply it properly. I always thought you were responsible for your perspective, but I have learned now that this is how ive built resentments that teach no one any lessons at all and is not constructive; it only hurts me. Its like yelling at traffic in your car or screaming at a pet or hitting a child- aperently ur the only one it affects. I think understanding this may effect my life in greatly positive ways and Im not sure i like it because it means Ive been wrong for a very very long time, but i think this is very positive and explains poor communication and misunderstandings and fights a lot better. Ive never been able to look at my relationship to relationships so objectivly before, Ive blamed my dysfunctional relationships on myself forever even more then i have other people or god or science- i thought somehow we all should or would learn by my bitter stubborness or pain, but hell no one really can choose their emotions and maybe i do need to be better at meaning it when i say everyone is valid... this is my reflection of the night and thought id share it. Thank you Jax you are beautiful
Posted on: Sat, 17 Aug 2013 07:52:46 +0000
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