ANONPOST A member would like to ask: I am the primary caregiver for our child and always have been and wouldnt want it any other way I moved towns when my son started prep so he could be closer to his dad and his dad could be more involved in life. Son is now 8 and dad has decided to move away. He is supposed to have our child one weekend a fort night from Friday afternoon to Sunday, however our boy doesnt want to leave me for 2 nights which is ok, I drop him off on a Saturday morning. School holidays was supposed to be week but again my son doesnt want to go. I havent forced the issue - it makes me feel special that he chooses to not be away from me. I work (sometimes 7 days a week) and study and am full time mum. Dad is financially secure and does not work, he does pay maintenance but it is well below what his income suggests he should be paying, although I am grateful that he does help out, something is better than nothing. We did mediation through a psychologist instead of the courts and I asked my psychologist could he ask sons dad to have son each week end until end of Feb so I could study, (my course finishes in Feb), I have asked my son if he is ok with this and explained why, that it was so I could study, my son was ok with this, if it couldnt be every week end could it be 2/3 weekends - I dont think this is a big ask as he has the entire week to himself, yet my psychologist has said its a bit rich to ask your ex to look after him so you can study I dont get that at all? Why is it a bit rich? This is our child, our responsibility so why shouldnt I ask him to help care for our child? Im not asking him to pay our bills or watch our son so I can go out partying etc... Its so I can study. My health is suffering, Im stressed under the load of being full time mother, working and studying the dr tells me Im suffering from stress and anxiety, I dont sleep which just compounds everything. There is no other support - I have no family in Australia and he doesnt speak to his family, if I cant ask a father to be responsible for his child who the hell am I supposed to ask??? The law says 50% responsibility. I cant quit working or I wont be able to keep a roof over our heads, and if I quit studying then I have no chance of making the future better not just for myself but my son Anyway, my question is: AM I BEING UNREASONABLE IN ASKING HIM TO HAVE OUR SON WHILE I STUDY IF NOT EVERY WEEKEND, 2 WEEK ENDS IN A ROW THEN 1 OFF (keeping in mind dad doesnt work)
Posted on: Sat, 27 Sep 2014 03:39:33 +0000
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