ARE YOU UNHAPPY IN YOUR MARRIAGE/ RELATIONSHIP? Possibly a contributing factor to your unhappiness is how you have handled your arguments. Disagreements are inevitable in a marriage, but there are things you might be doing that make it worse. There are things we say to our husbands that can be detrimental to our marriage such as, 1. Let me show you how to do it. Men feel good about themselves when they feel competent about solving lifes problems. Stepping in and directing your husbands behavior without him asking you to can send the message to him that hes not competent. When offering a suggestion to your spouse on how to do something it can help to approach it softly with something like,I have a suggestion for you, if youd like. This is feminine and humble enough not to push him away! 2. My ex used to do it this way. Never compare your husband to someone from a past relationship. The simple fact that youre thinking about former relationships may be emotionally wounding for the man you loveparing him to past relationships is a no-no because it may leave him wondering if hes good enough. 3. If you really loved me, you would… This is an emotional trap for husbands,DONT LAY TRAPS FOR YOUR HUSBAND! Using this phrase often makes your husband feel that he cant win.To prove that he does love you he has to give you what you want even if he doesnt think its a good idea or he doesnt want to. Even if it works in the short-run, hell likely end up resenting you sooner or later. 4. Why cant you just be more like... Be warned about comparing your husband to your friends or sisters husband.You married your husband because you love him, dont ask him to be someone else. This statement is likely to cause shame or anger, neither will motivate him and either one will probably cause him to shutdown. 5. Youre acting just like your father. We all have feelings good and bad about our parents.They are often more complex than others realize. While it may seem obvious to you that your husband is acting like his father or mother, the emotions that statement can bring are more complicated that you may realize. 6. You just need to put your foot down. No man wants his wife to tell him to man up. This is just emasculating. Calling his emotional strength or manhood into question will be damaging to both his self-esteem and your relationship. 7. My ex always paid attention to me. Again, comparing your man to someone else and telling him he doesnt measure will not inspire him to provide what you need. If thats what he used to do for you,why did you leave then? DONT COMPARE HIM because that will cause or increase a rift, making him feel like he cant please you and possibly causing you both to question your worth or feelings! ITS NOT A GOOD FEELING WHEN HE FEELS SO, HE WILL GO OUT LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO WILL ACCEPT HIM AS HE IS, THATS PAINFUL TO YOU TOO. THE POINT IS MAKE HIM FEEL APPRECIATED JUST AS HE IS. LETS DO THIS LADIES
Posted on: Fri, 25 Oct 2013 06:39:54 +0000