About criticism from relatives (and about this discussion): This is a public group; do not post what you dont want public. _______________________ This post is brought back anonymously so that the responses arent lost. _____________________________________________________ We (my husband, myself and our two daughters) were recently stay-a-few-nights guests at my grandmothers. I adore her and I am confident that she and my parents and aunts and uncles love us. Unfortunately, it seemed that love was often expressed as heres a thing I can do to encourage the 7-year old child to read or the 9-year old child to eat more. Most of the things were benign or even sweet, like giving books as Christmas gifts, then offering to read them to her. Other things struck me as really rude, such as announcing, at a dinnertime table full of people, that it was time for her to learn to read. I didnt say anything in that moment and I feel like I failed my daughter. We now live close enough to these relatives to visit regularly, and Id really like to do that, but this past weeks experiences have made me think I need to be less tolerant of the way they currently think/speak to my children. Id appreciate hearing other peoples experiences working with beloved family members, both in the moment ways of letting the relative know their words are inappropriate/unnecessary and helping relatives just relax and enjoy the few days at a time that they have with us. Or perhaps some here have found it best simply to talk to their children about it and not worry about trying to educate or change anyone. Thank you.
Posted on: Fri, 02 Jan 2015 04:56:00 +0000
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