Abuse only thrives in silence. MANY who are abused have no idea they are even in that mess. They dont see themselves as victims, but they see themselves as a strong human being that is the only hope for the highly disturbed man/woman that is abusing them. This is my PLEA for you to please, please get out NOW. Signs of abuse: 1. The abuser creates the illusion that YOU are the dominant partner in the relationship... (usually by idolizing you, excessive with compliments, wanting to know every detail about your life, and creating a false magical atmosphere of trust between you two by confessing secrets). Their goal is to CHARM and SEDUCE the victim psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. 2. The abuser will ISOLATE you... They will not announce this. It will often be subtle and geared toward you. When you face problems, they will insist that THEY are the only one you should EVER turn to and nobody else will understand like THEY do. 3. They will introduce the abuse... This may be a sudden burst of anger or seduction. The abuser will excessively apologize and promise that it will never happen again, and will hint or say that you caused that behavior to rise within them. Some may even claim that they need your help. They want you to feel like it is YOUR obligation to stay, and will make you feel guilty if you even THINK of leaving them. 4. You feel unique and alone... Although every feeling within you fights against this truth, you are NOT alone. You may feel confused or even crazy for thinking that there may be something wrong with that relationship you are in. Everyone has their hard times wil be a phrase you cling to. Again, you feel that you are strong and if you leave, you are a failure, and you have failed the one that loves you. 15,000,000 children are abused every year. 1 in 3 women have faced abuse in their lifetime. You are FAR from alone. 5. You think it will get better... Getting married, spending more time with them, serving them, following their every demand WILL NOT change them. Your deep love for them is not in question. They continue to say so many sweet words wrap the abuse in promises and over the top gestures of love. They dont want to lose you, so they continue to build an illusion of the love youve always dreamed of. Youre often confused, and because youre isolated, you dont even think to talk to anyone about it because they wont understand. Please, break the silence. Tell someone. My heart breaks for you tonight, whoever you are. You are loved, and you are worth MORE than what you are being put through.
Posted on: Fri, 24 Jan 2014 00:57:49 +0000
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