Am sure every girl in a serious relationship can identify with some of the things am about to say here. Usually we meet our guy and fall in love and everything seems perfect. We are in heaven except for one tiny little thing .Initially it is a tiny little thing but that tiny little thing is really not that tiny because it is the only thing that makes our happiness not so complete. Initially we try to ignore it and try to live with it. But with the passage of time it becomes not such a little thing anymore and we cannot ignore it any more –then we begin to attempt to do what we have been told several times never to do in a relationship. We begin to attempt to change him. Take it from me; it is a very harrowing experience. It would leave you exhausted and miserable except you try to get over the fact that you can never cure him of that thing. Am not talking of his ever forgetting to lift the toilet seat to pee or never cleaning up after himself. Here are some specific things in my opinion I think you will have a miserable time trying to cure your guy of. If he is a football buff, forget it. No way is he going to leave his football for you. It is not possible. Just plan your life around his football fanaticism. Just get used to watching his sports Channels when you would rather be watching something else. Let him have his football and all the things that go with it. He has to watch all the matches of his club side with his friends of course and he expects you to come along. Lord help you if you hate football. Just go along and pray his club side wins each time they play. If he is too into his club you have to learn also to cope with his depression or anger tantrums if his club side doesn’t win. If he is a beer guzzler you can’t change that easily .My friend simply told me ‘I drink’ right from the very first few conversations I had with him. “Everybody in my family drinks” and he told me clearly “Don’t go there.” I love you but things I can never change for you is- cut my hair or not drink my beer or change my religion so don’t even try. You catch my drift. If you drink beer yourself, the best you can do is agree with him that both of you never go beyond a certain number of bottles or cans at each sitting. Nothing would ever appeal to him more than his cold sweating bottle of beer not even choice wine. Trust me I know. This might sound rather strange but it is happening. If your guy Still goes frequently to his mom for his meals, to pay many of his bills, to get his laundry done etc then your guy is a mummy’s boy. You are going to have a tough time getting him to leave this comfort zone and grow up. Expect lots of issues because he is going to seek his mother’s approval for everything. He must seek approval from his mom before he even gets to be very serious with you on anything. He dates only women his mum like. He is likely to break with you any time if the relationship between you and his mum change. You can’t come between a man and his mommy no matter how old he is. She will always make him feel guilty if he does something she does not want. He will always want to please his mother. If he is a couch potato you probably cannot change him. A couch potato is a person who spends much time sitting or lying down usually watching television or reading. In other words a couch potato is a lazy person. He may not want to do anything else after work or during weekends but just lay on the settee and surf channels or chat with his online friends .Getting him to get up to get some certain things done will always be an uphill task. There will always be lots of friction between the two of you from conflict of interest especially if you are choleric and like getting a lot of things done. The best you can do is to join him on some days you have less to do and just stay around doing nothing but eat snacks and watch television as a bribe for him to join you in something else more interesting to you. A woman said I have been in a relationship for years, with a mama’s boy, couch potato and sports freak wrapped in one. She says “ your guy will always be as you see him now so open your eyes, wake up, he will never change….he can’t change he will only become more of what he is. If you don’t like what you see move on.” I think she has hit the nail on the head.
Posted on: Mon, 21 Oct 2013 14:02:37 +0000
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