An open letter to my Aunt Shirley Jahn Parrott, The time has come to say goodbye. Over the years, weve gone through the worst of times. Court battles surrounding greed tore our family apart from the core. I chose to remain not-so-blissfully ignorant, in an attempt to maintain any sort of family structure that there once was. I never asked questions of either side, I never knew details. To this day, I only know the outcome, which was you, receiving A LOT of money. What I never understood is why grandma and grandpa, in their advanced age, would go through all the stress of the court battles. I hurt the people I love, for you, and for grandma and grandpa. the last time I saw you before you moved, I went out of my way, through a snow storm, to visit with you. I left feeling like I wasnt really wanted there, as if I was a spy. Traumatic family events went by without us being told they happened, Grandpa in the hospital multiple times, and you moving them across the country come to mind. Finding out these things through public facebook posts, (pictures) is disrespectful and heart wrenching. Weve all gone through our own battles over the years, and I can say that I never once asked grandpa and grandpa for a dime, never asked for anything but love. They never bought me a car, or a house, or paid my bills. I never asked that of them, it wasnt expected, I never felt they owed me anything. When grandpa passed in January, I was so sad that I never got a chance to see him again. I felt that opportunity was taken from me, when you took him to Tennessee, without even a text message to give me an opportunity to come say goodbye. I dont have the kind of money to hop on a plane and jet across the country, unlike yourself. so I distanced myself a bit more. I sucked it up and came to the funeral. It was good to see the whole family together again. Well, a few were missing. Only one person awkwardly asked where my dad was, so I have to assume the rest heard some story from you as to why he wasnt there. You laywer was there, that was weird. He approached me and told me that he couldnt talk to me, that was awkwardand unnecessary. It was interesting to hear the stories of the man I remembered from my childhood, the giving man who loved to help people. The family man. Im not sure why that changed, but according to the document I read recently, it was made official November 23rd, 2011. Obviously, I am referring to the letter, outlining grandpas will. The document that says you have all control, that you get it all. Im baffled, hurt, but sadly, not surprised. It seems you were able to scoop them up, remove everyone from their lives, and take complete control of them. Just like you said you would, years ago. So at this point, the truth is out. You are the greediest of them all, you won in your sick twisted game. The path you leave in your wake is torn up, but now the storm has passed and we will recover. Sadly itll have to be without you. I hope you one day realize that money really doesnt buy happiness. Clearly, it ruins families and tears love apart. The person in the worst position, who got stuck in the middle of all of this, is grandma. Shes now alone, in a home in Tennessee, torn away from her family and moved across the country, secluded. I have a really hard time beleiving that grandma wouldnt want to pass anything down to her grandchildren, and Im not referring to money. She wouldnt want to give us pictures of our parents as children? Family videos? Things we would have appreciated that hold childhood memories for us? Christmas decorations? The painting of her as a child? Nothing? It doesnt make sense. To specifically state that Jake and I are next in line after you and all of your descendants? I cannot allow myself to sit back and pretend that you are not the cause of the mess our family is in. I cannot witness the falsehoods any longer. Ive decided as this point I need to cut all ties, say goodbye, and move on. I refuse to allow this negativity to impose on my life and my relationships. I am making this post public, and I am tagging all of our family that I have present on facebook. I hope that everyone is able to see you for who you really are. I hope everyone understands that youve not been honest, that that cause of the turmoil in this family is you. I encourage anyone who has anything to say to step up and say it now. No more secrets, no more lies. When the response to this post has ended, my family will be less a few people, but so much stronger overall. ~Jasmine
Posted on: Tue, 29 Jul 2014 16:08:44 +0000
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