And our second post is another bonus mom who needs to vent and could use some words of encouragement... I just really need to vent. So heres the situation.....been with my husband for almost 5 years and we will be married for a year in September. I have two great step kids....SD will be 13 next month and SS is 8. Both kids bring an insanely amount of joy in my life. BM on the other hand not so much. My husband and I fought very hard to have the kids 3 nights a week and in turn dropped the child support to her dramatically. Well I guess thats not helping her social life because she keeps telling the kids how rich their father is. We live a modest lifestyle and within a strict budget. We cant afford to go on a honeymoon because we were paying lawyers, cant buy a new stove because we are paying for tutoring for SD, cant go to the salon to get my hair and nails done because SD needs braces. But Im sorry that their father wants to spend more time with his children and in turn is making a dent in your wallet. But yet you get your hair cut and colored every week but cant take your daughter to get it done, but when I take an initiative to go do it because its looking like a rats nest, you have a full blown tantrum! And you go get your nails done every week but cant give your son clean clothes or proper fitting clothes to wear. Spend money on your boyfriends children but say you wont give your daughter a birthday party because your broke. Go get a $300 tattoo on your leg but buy your children clothes at goodwill. Tell your daughter shes not taking her for tutoring because thats on his time and he didnt pay for your summer camp. Um I thought having a good education was more important these days than just skating by with cs and ds like she did all last year! But because she didnt fail its ok to let SD spend all summer in front of the tv, go on trips with camp and not do her summer reading or math packets (we are the ones always on top of her with it). SS is in summer school this year for behavior problems but always acts up at her house and she doesnt understand why. Heres a thought....maybe because theres structure and discipline in our house and we actually spend time with the kids and not let them do whatever they want. Your kids are screaming for attention and the only way they get it is when they do something bad.....not rocket science. Not trying to say we dont have our problems at our house, but no where near the things she will text us. Its just so infuriating that she can be so lazy and then play the poor me card. And now is putting this same attitude to the kids. Like no get up put your big girl pants and face the world with some confidence and determination. Not teach your children to skate by in life and have no goals or drive to do bigger and better things. I think that what gets under my skin the most. Sorry I just had to vent and get it off my chest before exploding! Thank you for taking time to read this. Just needed someone to listen.
Posted on: Thu, 07 Aug 2014 21:59:34 +0000
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