And thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children. Isa. 54:13. Separation Anxiety Before I say much of anything, I want to let the definitions speak for themselves! All of the things that I desire to say are all wrapped up in these definitions. I will try to make this a brief statement and not a novel…you praying? Lolol Separation Anxiety as defined by a Wikipedia contributor: “Separation anxiety disorder is a psychological condition in which an individual experiences excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment (like a father, mother, grandparents, and brothers or sisters). It becomes a disorder when the separation reaction becomes strong enough to impair peoples ability to conduct their day to day lives and relationships.”(italics mine) (All definitions below are from Dictionary) sep·a·ra·tion /ˌsɛp əˈreɪ ʃən/ Show Spelled[sep-uh-rey-shuh n] Show IPA –noun 1. an act or instance of separating or the state of being separated. 2. a place, line, or point of parting. 3. a gap, hole, rent, or the like. 4. something that separates or divides. Medical Dictionary sep·a·ra·tion definition Pronunciation: /ˌsep-ə-ˈrā-shən/ Function: n 1 : the process of isolating or extracting from or of becoming isolated from a mixture also : the resulting state 2 : DISLOCATION /æŋˈzaɪ ɪ ti/ Show Spelled[ang-zahy-i-tee] Show IPA –noun, plural -ties. 1. distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune: He felt anxiety about the possible loss of his job. 2. earnest but tense desire; eagerness: He had a keen anxiety to succeed in his work. 3. Psychiatry . a state of apprehension and psychic tension occurring in some forms of mental disorder. World English Dictionary anxiety (æŋˈzaɪɪtɪ) — n , pl -ties 1. a state of uneasiness or tension caused by apprehension of possible future misfortune, danger, etc; worry 2. intense desire; eagerness 3. psychol See also angst a state of intense apprehension or worry often accompanied by physical symptoms such as shaking, intense feelings in the gut, etc, common in mental illness or after a very distressing experience. I have highlighted the latter segment and I want to shed light on the fact that this anxiety about separation causes IMPAIRMENT!! AN INABILITY TO CONDUCT ONESELF ON A DAY TO DAY BASIS AND IN OTHER RELATIONSHIPS! There are times that we are connected to others (for reasons not included in the definition above), and that connection ties us together. We develop relationship and then something happens, i.e. our interests change, we feel like what we were looking for is no longer a factor or available to us through that individual, etc. then we make the decision to SEPARATE. For some of us the very idea of separating from those we are in relations with is filled with all kinds of emotions, none of them pleasant! Why do we trip about departing from something/someone that we KNOW is NO GOOD FOR US??! We have dealt with all kinds of abuses in some relationships….even in life-long friendships! We suffer verbal abuse. We suffer being the one always GIVING to the point of emotional, spiritual, and physical depletion and yet WE STAY?! Why? Well our answer is in the above definition. We are anxious about separating! We actually have convinced ourselves that this abusive relationship, friendship, familial relationship, and church-budyship is worthy of us enduring “whatever” we have to in order to PROVE to the other party we LOVE THEM or that we are LOYAL! HOG WASH!! The reality is, we are fearful of walking alone! We are scared to take that step and move out into the mystical unknown ….that very unknown that could quite possible possess a great dimension of happiness and a life WITHOUT the drama of those afore mentioned abuses. So my friends, take a moment, re-read the definitions above. And re-evaluate your relationships and if they really are unhealthy….LET THEM GO!! Just we are Believers doesn’t mean we have to have a carpet ministry…….being the carpet that others walk on that is!! (SN: going through for the glory of God is one thing, abuse is quite another….evaluate, and if it’s not God-ordained, REPOSITION….YOURSELF! *Note to Self: although you may not know what life is like without these people, you have to let them Go! Although you may feel the anxiety about making this detrimental choice, IT MUST BE DONE… where you are in life right now DEMANDS IT. Not making a choice, is still choosing!! SELAH! ~†Bishop MP♚ The Apostle†
Posted on: Wed, 26 Mar 2014 19:52:58 +0000
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