Anger Management: An Islamic Perspective Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger.”.Bukhari Anger is one of the evil whispers of Shaytaan, which leads to so many evils and tragedies, of which only Allaah knows their full extent. For this reason Islam has a great deal to say about this bad characteristic, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) described cures for thisdiseaseand ways to limit its effects, among which are the following: Anger management tips from the Quran and Sunnah 1 – Seeking refuge with Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan when feeling angry. Narrated Sulaiman bin Surd: While I was sitting in the company of the Prophet, two men abused each other and the face of one of them became red with anger, and his jugular veins swelled (i.e. he became furious). On that the Prophet said,I know a word, the saying of which will cause him to relax, if he does say it. If he says:I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan.then all is anger will go away.Al-Bukhaar i (3282) and Muslim (2610) 2)Keeping silent: Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.(Report ed by Imaam Ahmad).This is because in most cases, the angry person loses self control and could utter words of kufr (from which we seek refuge with Allaah), or curses, or the word of divorce (talaaq) which would destroy his home, or words of slander which would bring him the enmity and hatred of others. So, in short, keeping silent is the solution which helps one to avoid all that. 3) Changing one’s posture when feeling angry. Abu Dawood (4782) narrated that Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to us: “If one of you gets angry when he is standing, let him sit down; if his anger disappears, all well and good,otherwise let him lie down.”.(Sunan Abi Dawud) Among the benefits of this advice given by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) is the fact that it prevents the angry person from going out of control, because he could strike out and injure someone, or even kill or he could destroy possessions and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will become overexcited, and lying down makes it even less likely that he will do something crazy or harmful. It is possible that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told the angry person to sit down or lie down so that he would not do something that he would later regret. And Allaah knows best. 4)Perform Abulation: Prophet (saws) said: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution…abu dawood 5)Remind yourself about the reward of restraining from anger Bring to mind the reward for patience, forbearance and restraining your anger, for that is the characteristic of the pious who are promised Paradise, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And march forth in the way (which leads to) forgiveness from your Lord, and for Paradise as wide as the heavens and the earth, prepared for Al-Muttaqoon (the pious).134. Those who spend (in Allaah’s Cause) in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good‑doers)”[Aa l ‘Imraan 3:133-134] The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever restrains his anger when he is able to act upon it, Allaah will fill his heart with pleasure on the Day of Resurrection.” Saheeh al-Targheeb, 2623. 6) Following the advice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him),Advise me.He said,Do not become angry.The man repeated his request several times, and each time the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told him,Do not become angry.(Reported by al-Bukhaari,) According to another report, the man said:I thought about what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, and I realized that anger combines all kinds of evil.(MusnadAh mad,5/373) 7) Controling anger can take you to Paradise Prophet(saws) said:Do not become angry and Paradise will be yours (see Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7374. Remembering what Allaah has promised to the righteous (muttaqeen) who keep away from the causes of anger and struggle within themselves to control it, is one of the most effective ways of extinguishing the flames of anger. One of the ahaadeeth that describe the great reward for doing this is:Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allaah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection.( Saheeh-al-Jaami ’,6518). 8) Knowing that resisting anger is one of the signs of righteousness (taqwaa): The righteous (al-muttaqoon) are those praised by Allaah in the Qur’aan and by His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Paradise as wide as heaven and earth has been prepared for them. One of their characteristics is that they (interpretation of the meaning)spend (in Allaah’s Cause) in prosperity and in adversity, [they] repress anger, and [they] pardon men; verily, Allaah loves al-muhsinoon (the good-doers).[A al ‘Imraan3:134] These are the ones whose good character and beautiful attributes and deeds Allaah has mentioned, and whom people admire and want to emulate. One of their characteristics is that (interpretation of the meaning). . . when they are angry, they forgive.[al-Shooraa 42:47] (9)Listening to reminders: Anger is a part of human nature, and people vary in their anger. It may be difficult for a man not to get angry, but sincere people will remember Allaah when they are reminded, and they will not overstep the mark. Some examples follows Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that a man sought permission to speak to ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him), then he said:O son of al-Khattaab, you are not giving us much and you are not judging fairly between us.‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) was so angry that he was about to attack the man, but al-Hurr ibn Qays, who was one of those present, said:O Ameer al-Mu’mineen, Allaah said to His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) (interpretation of the meaning): ‘Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish’ [al-A’raaf 7:199]. This man is one of the foolish.By Allaah, ‘Umar could go no further after al-Hurr had recited this aayah to him, and he was a man who was careful to adhere to the Book of Allaah. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, al-Fath, 4/304). 10) Du’aa’:Du’aa’ is always the weapon of the believer, he should always asks Allaah to protect him from evil, trouble and bad behaviour and seeks refuge with Him from falling into the pit of kufr or wrongdoing because of anger. One of the three things that can help save him is: being fair at times of contentment and of anger (Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3039). One of the du’aa’s of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was:O Allaah, by Your knowledge of the Unseen and Your power over Your creation, keep me alive for as long as You know life is good for me, and cause me to die when You know death is good for me. O Allaah, I ask You to make me fear You in secret and in public, and I ask You to make me speak the truth in times of contentment and of anger. I ask You not to let me be extravagant in poverty or in prosperity. I ask You for continuous blessings, and for contentment that does not end. I ask You to let me accept Your decree, and for a good life after death. I ask You for the joy of seeing Your face and for the longing to meet You, without going through diseases and misguiding fitnah (trials). O Allaah, adorn us with the adornment of faith and make us among those who are guided. Praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the Worlds. Conclusion: Anger, if left uncontrolled or unmanaged, can be a costly weed. It is detrimental to one’s health and relationships with others. In fact, it may cause a great loss in this world and a greater loss in the hereafter. Therefore, this weed must be kept under one’s control in order to allow the healthy plant of righteousness, piety, and obedience to grow. May Allah forgive our sin’s and give everyone the ability to practice Islam and the straight path The path shown by our prophet Muhammad(saw), Ameen. Alliamdhulilah am alive.
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