As a woman still single in her mid-thirties, I have asked myself this question time and again. Is the only way I will really find love is if I am smaller? The confident fighter and the self-assured woman in me says no-- of course not. But the logical side, the one that lives in numbers and percentages, knows that my simple likelihood of meeting a guy who who is into me will just increase if I am smaller. This advice column TRULY hits home for me. For any woman who has struggled with her body and confidence. If you have EVER wondered if you are thin enough (even if you wear a size 10) or polished and pretty enough... Just read this. I simply dont care what size you are-- SO MANY OF us simply believe if we are different than things will be better. I would rather live in the real world, which is ruled by a wicked laugh and a faint whiff of honeysuckle and a chilled pint hitting a mans lips, along with the vague sensation that hes brighter and stronger than he usually is, because hes sitting across from a woman with beautiful eyes and a sick sense of humor who really, really gets him....Real-life beauty is a blur of motion, a flash of disbelief, an assured gesture, a long sigh that sings with intelligence and self-acceptance. We cant capture in two dimensions, or reduce to a series of numbers, the feelings that real human beings experience in the company of a woman with the confidence to own exactly who she is, to show where shes been, to listen closely and understand completely. A woman who loves her life, who can laugh at herself, but whose head isnt crowded and noisy. A woman who can focus and make room — real space — for you, and bathe you in her generosity and her compassion.
Posted on: Wed, 08 Oct 2014 22:52:01 +0000