Assalam Alaikum. I have seen a lot of single / divorced sisters experiencing loneliness and wanting to get married/remarried. Most of us today think that marriage is an answer to everything. I am single and my parents have been looking for a guy for quite sometime now, two years to be precise n it started mostly because my family members kept pestering my mom about how I should get married and have babies. Cuz thats what we girls are meant for. Do all the sisters here think that the ONLY purpose we have is to keep a man happy n have his babies n raise them? THATS IT? I used to think the same way n I got fed up of few things and started saying YES to every proposal but only to get rejected. It blew my self esteem n I thought m I so bad that guys n their families r rejecting me. Then I thought well, WELL I AM ONLY GIVING THEM TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE WHICH THEY DONT DESERVE. Since when guys have become so important in my life that I am judging my worth on their rejection. (Psst There was a time when I hated guys and I thought if someone likes me it should be for who I am but unfortunately it changed n I started trying to impress them so that they say yes and marry me but NOT ANYMORE alhamdulillah) Their rejection which is only cuz they think I AM NOT PRETTY ENOUGH for them n they DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER. Well fine. Good luck duh! YOUR LOSS for rejecting me. LOL. Anyway I diverted my mind to different things. Tried studying Arabic, memorizing Quran alhamdulillah, still struggling though. Had to quit but then In Shaa Allah I m not going to give up. Got a job, I get to meet people, talk to them, help them. Well females working in a western country, is not ISLAMIC but I am doing it under my limits cuz Allah did not ask us to stop living or burden ourselves. I wear a hijab to work, loose clothes, try not to cause fitnah, I maintain my distance from men, hardly talk to them, I try to repent a lot because human beings are sinners n we must keep repenting. So, what I am saying is, SINGLE SISTERS I KNOW IT IS DIFFICULT, MARRIED SISTERS I KNOW IT IS DIFFICULT. The grass is always greener on the other side. But leaving aside our problems I think we should TRY to enjoy other things too. Make friends(girls), go shopping, learn new things (preferably Islamic) cuz we are answerable to Allah on how we spent our time in Duniya, count our blessings pls. Previously I used to stress more on issues in my house but now alhamdulillah I see our Muslim brothers n sisters all over the world and thank Allah for protecting me n my family, so should you, thank him for the baby you have, for your hands n feet, ur eyesight n so many things. SubhanAllah just please stop giving the key to your happiness to men. Just STOP ! Love and respect should be from both ends. It is ALRIGHT if u r single u have time to study or anything else. N if u r married n not happy get out if u want, marriage should not be the cause for u to suffer. Seek help from Allah before anything. In Shaa Allah he is and will always be there for us. Aameen.
Posted on: Tue, 23 Dec 2014 19:36:14 +0000
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