BEWARE OF DOGS - My Candid Advice To Those Going Into A Relationship In Church today, you get to meet different categories of people who come for different reasons. Some come to Church to hear the Word of God that would help shape their lives and position them rightly for the future; words that would make their lives better than they used to been. To some others, Church is where to find a right spouse for marriage. For some of such people, they arent really interested in whats been preached or taught by the minister but after their own selfish gratification and thats to hook up with a brother or sister they seem to be doing apparently well in Church. Interestingly, many of such individuals would even go as far as attaching themselves to a department where they function in the Church so as to seek an opportunity to get closer to the brother or sister to whom theyre attracted to. Note, this isnt a mere assumption or speculation but the reality. Its what has been and still is today in most of our Churches. Therere wolves in sheep clothing in our Churches today. See, if Satan could be present at the prestigious meeting God had with His sons (the angels) and God didnt send him out, as recorded in the book of Job 1:6, he and his children also would come to church for a well defined purpose. So relax, fasten your seat-belt as you journey with me to a world of reality. Theres this covered story of a young man whom Ill refer to as Eddy, whos in his early thirties had just arrived the country (Nigeria) from England. Having spent couple of weeks, he decided to let his childhood friends know of his intention to settle down for marriage. They however, advised him never to pick any of the society ladies that theyve always hanged out with. Eddy was later advised by his friends to start going to Church because thats where he could get a wife material. Heeding to their advice, Eddy didnt hesitate as he soon began attending regularly services in Church, not too far from his house. Sooner, hed gotten the attention of some sisters who had also took notice of him in Church. However, Eddy seemed to pick interest in a particular sister whom Ill also like to call Liz - whos in her late twenties. Shes a good looking lady and one of the sisters who noticed Eddy in Church. Having watched her on several occasions and discovered how different she was from the other sisters in the Church, Eddy decided to be friendly with her. Liz on the other hand, hadnt been in a relationship for a long time and beginning to worried as most of her friends were either married or in steady relationship, she started becoming friendly too with Eddy to encourage his interest for her. Thus, having made friends with couple of sisters in the Church, Eddy resolved to be intimate or rather, chose to woo Liz. And after studying her and found that shed weakness for material things; he started to bombard her with gift items. On her own part, Liz couldnt believe how fortunate she was and readily started dating Eddy. Barely three months into their dating, Eddy proposed to Liz and she without giving it a second thought accepted to be his wife. Two months later, they were married. Now, a few of Lizs friends felt that she should have slow-down a bit so she could have enough time to get to know Eddy better, but she wouldnt listen to them; as she felt shed waited for too long to get married. She exclaimed besides, shed met Eddy in Church so she saw no reason for their reservations. Eddy and Liz traveled to South Africa for a three-week honeymoon. A week after they returned from S.A, Eddy was arrested by the NDLEA for drug-related offences. Initially, Liz couldnt believe it and felt that it must all have been a case of mistaken identity because as far as she knew, Eddy was a big government contractor. Eddy was charged to court and four months later, hes sentenced to ten years in prison. As at the time all that was happening, Liz was already pregnant and practically penniless since all of Eddys properties had been seized by the NDLEA and Shes left with just one car that hed bought in her name. Liz had never been so ashamed or down cast in all her life. She moved back in with her parents but later got her own apartment after giving birth to her daughter - Luci. **Moral Lesson!** It doesnt matter whether or not you meet someone in Church whom youre attracted to, its expedient that you dont because youve waited long enough to get married, for that rush into marriage without taking adequate time trying to know him/her better. Get it straight from me; by personal experience, Im therefore putting it to you today that, for the fact you met that person in the same Church as the case may be, doesnt necessarily mean he/she has what it takes to be a husband/wife material. You see, as Christians, we oftentimes make the mistake of taking the fact that because someone is highly spiritual (i.e., born again, spirit filled and tongue talking) would make a good husband/wife. Dont be deceived! Its not always the case. Beware and dont be carried away. Am I now saying you should avoid someone whom youre attracted to that has attained a level of spirituality? Emphatically NOT! The emphasis here is for the individual to stay vigilant in the search for a future spouse even within the four walls of the Church. Or havent you read where its written in the Scripture that Beware of Dogs that is, watch out for dogs, watch out for evil workers, watch out for those who mutilate the flesh? - Philippians 3:2 (HCSB). When you see this sign of warning - BEWARE OF DOGS written on the fence or main entrance gate to a compound, its not talking about dogs outside the compound but inside. Because the dogs inside are more dangerous or violent than the ones outside. So please take note so you dont fall a victim of attack! I conclude by admonishing that you learn to set standards to check run your life. Its so important. It thus entails defining who you are, what your values are, kind of people who should be around you in the Church even though, were all brothers and sisters in Christ, who that person you need in your life should be and also, helps define your relationship with him/her. And above all - prayer, you must never in the name of love play lazy in your prayer life if you must the most of your relationship. In the place of prayer, God gets to review to you who the other person is. It takes only God to review the ulterior motives of someone youre in or going into a relationship with. Dont let love cloud your sense of reasoning and not see the importance of this truth. Make no mistake about it the Love that I know of and thats shared abroad in my heart by the Holy Ghost get more than two eyes. Its not blind at all. It can see clearly o *smiLes* Well, the bottom line is that if you have all these in place, you wont feel left behind. People who dont make plans for what they want, venture in things blindly and at the end, are disappointed. No wonder its rightly said that he that fails to plan, plans to fail. Therefore, if youre looking out going into a relationship, draw out your plans first. And note that the relationship between a guy and lady is primarily because of marriage. This is its true essence. And until I come your way again, stay blessed and have a blissful week. God bless you!!
Posted on: Mon, 08 Sep 2014 09:42:47 +0000
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