#Borrowed_from_LB_Kelle. I have never secretly gone through my husbands phone, or read his text messages. I have never asked for his email passwords, asked why he is late, or where he has been. My friends say that I am naive and living in denial. Men cannot be trusted, they tell me. You have to live with the assumption that he is cheating, so that you are not shocked when you find out that he is. And trust me, you eventually will , one of them said. Well, maybe I am naive, but I simply refuse to live my life stressing and expecting the worst. Been there, done that!! I was once in a relationship that was tinged with suspicions of infidelity. I wasted a lot of time spying on my partner (and he on me). Calling constantly, checking his phone, listening to voicemails, driving by locations he frequented- to see if he was where he said he was, and who he was with. I had a network of concerned friends who constantly updated me on his movements. My cousin and I even occasionally stalked the rumored side chick. Keeping tabs on him consumed me, drove me crazy, and ate me alive. I confronted him with my suspicions often. We argued. We fought. I nagged. He denied. I threatened. Did that stop him from cheating? NAH....he left!! In fact, the night we broke up, he went straight to her Kazigo. If a person is determined to cheat let me tell you, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it!! You might even catch them red handed; but all that will do, is teach them to be more careful the next time. I know this for sure - If you are doing the right things in your relationship; fully committed to your partner, and playing your part. If your heart is at peace, and you are in tune with your instincts and emotions, your intuition will always warn you when something is truly wrong. There will be no false alarms, and no need to go aimlessly hunting. I prayed for a specific man with specific qualities, and I believe that is what God gave me. If I should ever discover that my husband has been unfaithful, I am certain it will not be as a result of something I went looking for based on fear. If God chooses to reveal anything to me, I am certain he will show me the way forward (as he always does).But for now, this man has not given me a reason to doubt him. Is my marriage perfect? Not at all, but I will not create drama where there is none. Spend your time strengthening your relationship, not looking for things that could tear it apart. Things that often turn out to be a figment of your imagination, and not grounded in reality. Things nurtured in nothing but your insecurities. We attract to us that which we think we deserve. I am a faithful woman, and I would like to think that I live with a faithful man. Call me naive if you want, but I believe that there are a lot of honorable men out there. Not every man cheats!! Happy Thursday - L.B. Kelle
Posted on: Thu, 30 Oct 2014 08:17:44 +0000
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