Child Custody Litigation and Parental Alienation By Joseph Goldberg. A thousand times a day a child custody case is on a courtroom docket somewhere in North America. Parents complain about visitation, support, abuse, domestic violence, false allegations, and, parental alienation, and thats just a short list of complaints. When a parent gets fed up or sees an opportunity to take advantage of a weaker parents position, they often times resort to applications seeking sole phy- isical and legal custody. Children are often times forced to take a side and the voice of the child is frequently disputed. The court may appoint a GAL, a parenting coodinator, or suggest that the parties get a custody evaluation, or enter into mediation and time passes slowly for a parent that loses access with a child they miss and love and have no ability to communicate with. These cases are costly and the courts move slowly. The parent that is alienating a child gets to abuse their child and get away with it. Child protection in- vestigators ( CPS ) will not intervene because they view this form of abuse as a matter to be dealt with by the courts. Even though the American Psychiatric Association now has a new diagnosis called Child Psychological Abuse, CPS workers are not trained to identify it. I also know that mental health professionals are not even bothering to report this abuse to CPS but they still have a professional responsibility to do so. Who can an outside, rejected parent turn to ? Is there any way to protect a child from parental alienation and child psychological abuse ? Yes. There are experts in parental alienation you can and should confer with. I have a website to help - parentalalienation.ca My Facebook page is: Parental Alienation Consulting Services has other articles about the work I do. You can reduce the level of abuse on your child by retaining the right expert-consultant to assist you in your case, if you DONT find and hire this professional- brace yourself for a very poor out- come for you and for your child (ren). If you are having experience with parental alien- ation or child psychological abuse now is not the time to debate how your child got infected nor is it a time to ask how to ask how to prove it, nor is it a time to be seeking sole custody nor is it a time to file a motion for contempt nor is it a time to tell your child that its all mothers fault or all fathers fault - nor is it a time to give up. Its a time to get the right expert - consultant involved so they can tell you what type of inter- vention you need to assist your child(ren). These cases are so complicated that the first responder in this situation is the expert-consult- ant. This is the professional you want to hire to review your case files and to select your lawyer or, if you have a lawyer - let your consultant decide whether or not to keep your lawyer or, replace them. Let the consultant do the job in finding a new lawyer. At the very least-ask for a free consult- ation with a consultant because most of them will offer to give you one. Most professionals do not have any training or real understanding in the treatment of this con- dition in children, so if you let time pass and leave things up to them to decide its going to turn out costly and tragic. Dont turn your child or yourself into victims. Be proactive and retain an expert-consultant, one with bona fide cred- entials. Parents have no concept for understanding how quickly a bill can add up when you have lawyers and ad litems, and parenting coordinators, and the wrong mental health practitioner trying to fix your family dynamic. Do you know a way to vet which professional should be in charge ? No. I can also tell you that your lawyer doesnt know but he will tell you he thinks he knows some pretty good people he is willing to refer you to. ( Clue – recipe for disaster. ) Let it be said that there is never a bad time to go shopping for an expert-consultant to help you with your case. You may not realize this but let me put it this way, a courtroom is not all that different from a casino. You know that you have to pay to play, but the chances, and probabilities of you winning are stacked against you and you know that going in. The only way to win is to not play. If you find an expert-consultant he or she can show you how to”not play“ and thats how you do walk away a winner. Custody is not the end game. Its a fools game. If you have a lawyer telling you that you can win sole custody, they might be telling you what you want to hear but at the same time its a pretty good bet that they see something in it for them- selves ( Like the rest of whats left in your bank account.) Do you have to spend money to actually save money ? Yeah ! Thats the truth. A good expert-consultant is also more concern- ed about whats really happening to your child. I know that experts are also welcomed with open arms from the lawyer, after the client says, “ I just hired an expert in parent child relational problems to help us with the case and hes read all the case files and he wants to have a 3 way call with us to discuss a strategy on what he (or she) thinks we ought to do next. “ Lawyers love to hear that. It takes the pressure off them and in these cases they know they need all the help they can get. You will rarely hear a lawyer tell a client, “ I think you need to hire an expert-consultant. “ Not because they dont need the help, but because they cant admit their own shortcomings. A lawyer is only willing to pat you on the back when he hears you made the decision WITHOUT seeking the need for their approval. Think youll ever hear a lawyer tell a client you need to spend money ( on a consultant ) to save money ? Maybe one day. In the meantime, dont let one day be missed opportunity for you and your child. if you like this article please like my Facebook page at Parental Alienation Consulting Services and please SHARE this article with others that can benefit from this information. Visit my website at parentalalienation.ca and my Facebook page at Parental Alienation Consulting Services. -Goldberg & Associates- parentalalienation.ca ____________
Posted on: Thu, 13 Mar 2014 12:10:42 +0000
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