Counseling: The Law of Attraction What we want in a mate can provide clues to our motives and areas of personal growth we need to work on improving. Do you know why youre attracted to certain types of mates? Do you know what motivates you and how your motives impact the law of attraction? The law of attraction is just that, a law. It doesnt bend to our will, we must learn to bend to it and learn to work with it. I knew a couple several years ago with marital problems. The wife had grown up in a home where she was neglected. The environment was chaotic for her as a child. This was what she knew to be normal, what she was used to. It is not a surprise that she married a man whose behaviour was quite similar to her fathers poor behaviour. Her first marriage ended badly. As a result of her experience in that marriage, she was determined to find a stable and caring spouse. She got what she wanted in her second spouse. He was rock solid and stable. Unfortunately, she found herself frustrated and troubled several years into their marriage. He was loving and kind, which is what she wanted. She also found him dull and wasnt attracted to him. The marriage ended in a painful breakdown and her husband was very distraught. No surprise here. In order to work properly, the law of attraction requires adherence to its fundamentals. A key factor is the quality and quantity of the information being used to determine if people are well suited for each other. For the law of attraction to work in relationships, one needs good information. If at all possible, great information. Information that is accurate about yourself and the other person being considered as a mate. The woman I mentioned a few minutes ago didnt have clear and accurate information about herself. She wasnt aware of many of the obstacles she would need to overcome in order to be able to enjoy a fulfilling marriage. What she hoped to achieve in marriage was not consistent with who she was at the present time. Its like she was trying to take a bus ride to Hawaii. You can fly to Hawaii, you can go in a ship or boat, but there is no bus to take you there, no matter what direction you come from. The law of attraction requires clarity of thought. It also requires the thought to be held in ones mind and meditated upon. In the womans first marriage, its quite likely her mind was fixed upon what she didnt want. She didnt want to be under her parents care or lack of good care. She wanted out. She was attracted to what was normal to her, not healthy. Like attracts like. She ended up marrying an unhealthy man because an unhealthy home environment was what she had been raised in. In her second marriage she again had her mind focused on escape and chose a man who would not be erratic. Sadly, she found him too predictable, even dull. The solution lies within her own ability and willingness to find out what she wants and why. Once she has some clarity to these questions, she needs to become the type of person that would attract that ideal type of person into her life. As it relates to the law of attraction, there is no point more vital. Defining what an ideal mate would be for you, and then tirelessly working to become the type of person youre ideal mate would be attracted to. Chris Keenan is the founder of low cost - risk free relationship help at easyrelationshiphelp and is a regular guest on radio. Get your free copy of How to Prevent Your Relationship From Losing Value at easyrelationshiphelp
Posted on: Tue, 18 Mar 2014 08:11:25 +0000
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