DAY FOUR: MUSINGS OF A 34 YEAR OLD Today I write about taking negative energy and criticism. I grew up with a low sense of self worth. I had a big chip on my shoulder, always trying to make out what other people’s intentions were. I easily felt rejected, even when the other party’s aim was not to make me feel that way. When someone has personal issues, or they are plain immature, they read messages wrongly. For example, in writing my musings, my aim purely is to share my life’s lessons with those around me, for their growth and benefit. It is not at all to settle scores, or to expose anybody. Am 34 years and I moved from that level already. When I want to let you know of something, I tell you in person. I do not have to come to face book. That’s why apart from my family, I do not mention names in any of my musings. But I know that someone could be reading these with a negative mindset, and they are felling real bad. Their energy is so negative that all they do is pick on one sentence in a whole musing and use it to rip the entire writing to shreds. Some of it stays in their mind, but some gets to the people around them. They see life so negatively and wrongly. Do I care about such people? Not anymore. See, if you ever want to do anything at a higher level, influence more people than your small circle, you have to be able to take criticism and negative energy. People that take no risk, live a simple life. When you open a business, you are allowing people to criticize you. I cook for fun, satisfaction and for a living. But sometimes am amazed at the criticism that people give on a meal I have cooked, and yet am sure of their inability to cook the same! When I opened Eunies Kitchen face book page and started to post my recipes, I was exposing myself to the world, and to all kinds of people. Now with 2500 page likes plus, a simple post can get me so much criticism; my skin has to be thick enough to take it. That is growth. When I released the women’s devotional last year, I sent out free copies to a few women a wanted to honor; women whose opinion mattered to me. But one woman amazed me. As soon as she received the book, without the much expected thank you, she went ahead to negatively criticize the piece of work she had not even read, in my husband’s face. She did not wait to voice her negativity in our absence. No she did right there. Thank God I had learnt to take all kinds of criticism. If I had not, I would have been discouraged and probably withdrawn the book from the market, because I deeply valued this person’s opinion. However, my husband reminded about how much time, money and effort I had put into the book. And we mused that if only to bless one person, let’s release it. Besides, she had not written a single book in her life, she did not understand the dynamics at all. Now when I see the emails and calls that have come from the women readers, am glad am grown up. My musings for today: 1. if you want to grow and operate on a bigger platform in life, you must be ready to take negative energy and criticism. The sooner you develop a thick skin, the better. 2. Do not blame people with this kind of attitude. They are immature and have very low sense of self worth. It is not your responsibility to make them grow. God, using life and the people around them will help them grow. I was there, and I know better now (nakula) 3. Some of these people will die immature. Negative criticism is the theme of their existence. You got to learn to live with them. 4. When you know you have done your best, do not be afraid to put your best foot forward. Use the criticism to get better. You never know how many your pure motive will bless. That’s the spirit. Ciao.
Posted on: Sat, 20 Sep 2014 04:18:35 +0000
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