Dear D: I have been on match for a year now and still cant find my soul mate. What advice can you give me about finding love? Signed, Matchless in Miami Dear Matchless: When it comes to relationships, I can help people get ready for them; help them once they are in or if they want to get out; I can even help most get over them; but considering I am single for 20 years, I probably am not the best one to ask about finding The One. =D With that said, I will share with you some of the issues and blocks that prevent all of us from physically connecting with true love. First: We dont have to look for it. True love is always trying to connect with us. Match is great, but it is more often about shopping for people than it is about connecting souls. Nothing will keep two souls apart from one another once their frequency is aligned. Second: Consider a dating site as a tool, but dont panic because it hasnt worked. Instead, use the dating experiences of this past year by writing down all the traits you liked and didnt like in the people you have met. Use that list to make a new list of what you need and want...your bottom line as they say. Now read it out loud, and when you are done, honestly ask yourself, Will this awesome woman/man that I need and want to be with, also want to be with me? This exercise is a great wake-up tool. It makes us realize that if we want a really great girl, we have to be a really great guy (or vice versa). This statement doesnt mean we are bad, it just means we may not be as great as the person we are looking for! For instance, we cant expect someone to be healthier than we are, have more integrity, be more in shape, take better care of themselves, be more emotionally sound...you get the idea. Most importantly, we cant expect anyone to love us more than we are willing to love ourselves. We have to find a way to be in a love relationship with me before we can properly give and receive love as a we. Essentially, to start resonating with the person we would want to be with, we have to be willing and able to give to them exactly what we are expecting to get from them. The second we decide this, by the way, we have begun the readying process and are showing self love as well as our commitment to love them. The next step is to actually move towards healing from whatever issues may arise. So Matchless, be confident in who you are and how far you have come; believe in what you have to offer; then be humble enough to want to change out of whatever is masking your authentic self. Note: No one needs to be perfect! You can attract your true love at any stage of growth as long as you are willing to accept them in their growth process as well. And have no fears about how long all this is going to take. The second you decide to grow forward, is the exact moment your energy starts resonating on the same amazing frequency as The One you are growing towards.
Posted on: Sat, 13 Dec 2014 18:03:15 +0000
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