Do narcissists have friends? By Sam Vaknin Answer: Not in the usual sense of the word and not that they know of. The narcissist is one track minded. S/he is interested in securing the provision of Narcissistic Supply emanating from Narcissistic Supply Sources. His/Her world is as narrow as an ants, to borrow a poetic turn of phrase (from the Hebrew lyrical poetess, Rachel). This insularity also characterizes the narcissists human and interpersonal relationships. The narcissist is not interested in people as such. Incapable of empathizing, she is a solipsist, recognizing only himself/herself as human. All others are to him/her three dimensional cartoons, tools and instruments in the tedious and Sisyphean task of generating and consuming Narcissistic Supply. The narcissist over-values them (when they are judged to be potential sources of such supply), uses them, devalues them (when no longer able to supply him) and discards them nonchalantly. This behavior pattern tends to alienate and to distance people from him/her. Gradually, the social circle of the narcissist dwindles (and ultimately vanishes). People around him/her who are not alienated by the ugly succession of his/her acts and attitudes – are rendered desperate and fatigued by the turbulent nature of the narcissists life. These few still loyal to him/her, gradually abandon him/her because they can no longer withstand and tolerate the ups and downs of his/her career, his/her moods, his/her confrontations and conflicts with authority, his/her chaotic financial state and the dissolution of his/her emotional affairs. The narcissist is a human roller coaster – fun for a limited time, nauseating in the long run. This is one aspect of the process of narcissistic confinement.
Posted on: Mon, 06 Oct 2014 06:09:00 +0000
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