Embracing Differences - The Administrative Spouse (The Planner) We often talk about the marriage TEAM. A team is made up of individuals with DIFFERENT skills all working toward a common purpose. We talked in an earlier post about the EMOTIVE spouse whose gift included the gift of Mercy or Compassion. Look back and review the amazing benefits of this position on your team. Today, we are highlighting my gift (and many of you as well), the Cognitive gift of ADMINISTRATION. Sometimes this gift is misperceived as The Controller, or the one who just wants to RUN it all. The Administrative spouse is a gifted planner. This spouse begins with the end in mind. They plan according to how that want things to end up. They are patient with a plan and can be faithful with it until it comes to fruition. They plan the events, calendars and activities in a way that makes it all come together effectively. Effective communication with this spouse will ALWAYS include details, details, details--not to control them, but to include them in the overall plan. Contrary to popular belief, the administrator doesnt always want to have to come up with the plan--they are very open to another plan. However, when there is no plan in place, the administrator will come up with one so that he/she is comfortable moving forward. Embrace the administrative skills of this spouse and thank God for this addition to your team. This spouse tends to be stressed when his/her gift is rejected. Open the door to communication with this spouse by being willing to share details with them. IF YOU ARE THIS SPOUSE - Be mindful to exercise sensitivity to the FEELINGS of others. Although YOU may not be naturally emotionally sensitive, others are--and you must challenge yourself to develop in that area. A plan is only as effective as those who are WILLING to participate in it. Make sure that you are working with your mate to include their interests. Exercise flexibility with dates and commitments. While scheduling every minute of time works for you, others enjoy flexibility and spontaneity. Use your Marriage Meetings to discuss how you can make both interests work on your team.
Posted on: Thu, 09 Oct 2014 22:08:53 +0000
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