Every Muslim woman who seeks marriage in Islam should be aware that you are seeking a person to not only be a husband, friend, lover, partner, and all those good things; but you are seeking someone to be the imam of your home and family. Of course you want him to be a kind, generous, patient, good- natured, healthy, attractive (to you), and a god –fearing husband and Imam of your home. Nevertheless, as a woman, you need to be clear about what you really want and seek in a marriage. Many sisters say they want one thing but when they get it, it turns out that it’s not what they really want. Don’t say you want a strong man, and then resent his strength when he tries to lead, or say you want a knowledgeable man, and want him to disregard his knowledge and follow your’s or someone else’s whim, and don’t say you want a god-fearing, pious man, and then oppose him when he wants to direct his family to piety. If a woman wants a man who has these good qualities then she should seek that type of man, and not be overtaken by his looks, his swagger, his car, his walk or his talk. If a woman seeks a husband who does not have the qualities of a good man, then she will get a joker. The first thing to check about a potential spouse is his salat, and if you check his, make sure that you check yours too. If you are a Muslim woman who does not particularly want to be married to a religious man, or a man who prays, or enjoins you to pray, pays zakaat, fasts and enjoins you to fast, and observes a healthy (non-extremist) Islamic lifestyle, then that is your choice. This is not about blaming this or that person for how they want to live and what they consider important. Nevertheless, lets keep it real sisters, if you are not really trying to live the Islamic lifestyle as a wife and a woman, then don’t waste the time of a brother who is serious about this affair of ours, and you need to be clear with yourself about that. Likewise, if you as a Muslim woman, know that you want to life a serious and sober Islamic lifestyle, and raise your children accordingly, then don’t be beguiled by a brother who is handsome, talks a good game, drives a nice car, wears designer clothes, but lacks the substance that you are seeking..Ma salam. #AL_Abbas.
Posted on: Mon, 22 Sep 2014 21:18:11 +0000
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