Every situation you go through in life is a lesson I was married for 4 and half years. I was doing well. I had money, drove nice cars, I wore nice clothes and my business was great at the time. I was the man who was respected by my family and my in-laws. I would walk in the room and people would stand up and give me a seat. I had lots of friends. My phone was always ringing, men and women all wanted to hangout with me. My wife gave me so much respect. She would make sure my clothes are always clean, she would make sure my day is organised. I asked her to resign from her job and I asked what she was passionate about and what she really enjoyed doing. After she told me I paid for her studying and gave her what she used to earn when she was working till she was done with her studies. She completed and I helped her setup her business and it became a success on our third year of marriage. Things were fine as I focused on my business and focused on hers. In our fourth year of marriage, my business started losing clients. My wife began to change. To a point where I had to liquidate my business and started looking at other businesses and helping her with her business. Things got worse as I was fast running of out money and she was getting more. That is when I started seeing her coming home late and stories of her being seen with another man at the hotels. She started having more and more meetings that seemed to last till late. She suddenly had more and more business trips and was also seen with the same guy at the airport. She stopped looking after me completely. One day I was told she was seen with the same guy at a certain restaurant. I got there and they were sitting having wine and her leaning on his shoulder. She refused to leave with me and told me in front of him to go. From that day she started even sleeping out. I approached her family to ask for help and they sided with her. Money was still going out quick and I had no form of income. I sold one of the cars I really loved to keep afloat but that only kept me up for a while. I asked her for a loan to buy equipment to start another business but she refused. A couple of days later she she served me with divorce papers. I was broken and I started drinking too much, but I then went back to church. That is where I started pulling myself together. She went on to divorce me and I sold my other two cars and went back home to live with my mother. I kicked myself for not marrying her in community of property. I kicked myself for taking to school. I kicked myself for taking her my life savings and put it up for her to start her business. I stayed at home for a year trying this and that with no success. I finally got a break when one guy approached and we were able to get my old business back up and running. After two years of my divorce, now that things are back to normal, she now wants us to work on our relationship again. I beat myself up every night asking myself why God made me lose everything only to give it back to me? What was the whole point of all that punishment? Was it so that I see exactly who I was married to or was him testing her if she would stick by me through thick and thin? I made her a rich woman, then she dropped me when I was at my worst. I am fine now and I do go to church every Sunday, but I am never getting married again. I thought I knew the kind of woman I was married to, but I was only fooling myself. I learnt a very big lesson from the pain I went through in that 3 years of my life. I will never take her back, as it seems she only wants me when I have money.
Posted on: Wed, 06 Nov 2013 08:45:26 +0000
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