For spouses and loved ones: It is okay to think of yourself. It is okay to leave and let go. PTSD (for whatever reason) can cause much strain on any relationship. In some instances, even abuse, which in turn can cause PTSD for the victim of the abuse. For 3 years I took the abuse, the name calling, the bashing, calling me worthless and a piece of shit in front of my son. That is not what I wanted my son to grow up thinking was okay behavior, because it most certainly is not! It drove me to the point of wanting to kill myself and I tried. Luckily, my senses came about me and thought of my son without his mother and was able to recover. There is no excuse for anyone in this world putting you down so far that you felt that there was no point of you even being around at all. I left him. I still love him, but I knew that if I didnt leave, one of us was going to end up dead. He is supposedly getting help, however right now, that isnt enough for me. So much damage has been done. There are many other things on top of the PTSD and the abuse that I wont go into, but right now, there are certainly more reasons for me to stay away than go back. I need to be a mother to my son, he is most important to me. Sometimes I regret leaving because I feel like I gave up on him. WE promised each other forever, yet I chose to leave. Im certainly not pointing fingers, and blaming him for anything, but one person can only take so much and I had hit my breaking point. Now Im broke, living with family. I have a full-time job, but I have been left with debt from our marriage that he refuses to help me with. Sometimes I think about going back to just I wouldnt be depending on family so much, but then I realize....Id much rather be homeless and living in my car than go back to that mess. Some may not agree, but to each their own. My story may not seem very hopeful now, but I know it will get better. I know I will overcome this! Point being, it is okay to think about yourself and your children if you have any. Dont let it get to the point to where either of you snap. In a lot of cases, you leaving can spark an ah ha moment and they finally end up getting the help they need. However, in some cases it can make things worse for the one with PTSD. If you chose to leave, keep an eye on them or ask a mutual friend to check in on them every now and then.
Posted on: Sun, 04 Jan 2015 04:21:14 +0000
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