Freedom is the Key to Successful Commitment There are significant triggers vital to our self discovery process that can only come up while invested deeply in a relationship that matters. Most people expect bliss once they find The One thus setting themselves and the relationship up for failure. The relationship becomes adversarial instead of cooperative. Power struggles,competition and getting one over on secretly, sub-consciously becomes the focus of the relationship. What is this really about? Creating conflict (what we know how to do) causes us to get out of conscious coupling (what we have no expereince with yet) and thus we cant see that there might also be the option of conscious UN-coupling that is filled with love as well. We cant feel the freedom that we need to be whole and well in a relationship because we get so caught up in the conflict that we confuse as a means to get our needs met. We have been told and have bought into this idea that we shouldnt even have needs once in a relationship. People are not magically unconditional once into a love relationship.We are human, we have needs. If the relationship isnt providing that then what is the point? You are confessing doing your deep inner work via a relationship that triggers you with being a martyr. But buying into a new and improved way of framing and working in our relationships would buck the current fantasy of forever and happily ever after. Cant have THAT now can we? We must cling to that old useless way idea in order to be loyal to our families, religion and Disney. Even if it doesnt work as well and doesnt bring happiness like a new conscious way would. Even though that outdated rule book makes no sense to use as a guide any longer and sets us up for feelings of failure that block bliss. See, the unattainable fantasy kills our sense of freedom which is vital to the mental well being of the yang aspect in all of us but especially vital to the highest value men that all confidant women of value seek. If you want to be a man with options or attract a man functioning at this level then you must learn about using those relationship triggers to everyones benefit. Freedom is knowing you can navigate the ever changing terrain of an evolving relationship rather than stupidly, stumbling about following an map that is based on old territory and someone elses experience. Our need to feel free while going deeply into relationship is not to be dismissed. The key to freedom thus happiness is knowing how to consciously enter, experience and exit any relationship with grace and dignity. The only question you ever need to satisfy within yourself at any point then is, have I learned all there is to learn by being invested in this relationship? When you have a clear sense of your own core values/bottom-line, what needs MUST be met by the relationship and a commitment to use everything that happens in the relationship for self discovery now you will always have an exist strategy that satisfies your desire for freedom but doesnt destroy the relationship. You will have confidence to spare because every day is a new challenge you CHOSE to take on. I CAN LIVE THROUGH THIS AND NOT ONLY SURVIVE BUT THRIVE!!! Confidence! Goes like this... Fear Comes Up >> Stay Instead of Run/Hide/Avoid >> Feel Into Your Courage >> Confidence to Spare >> Compassion that Motivates Sharing >> Share and Feel Appreciated >> Fear Becomes Manageable >> You Feel Heard & Respected >> Repeat in ALL Your Important Relationships . The Red Pill Relationship Revolution
Posted on: Sun, 29 Jun 2014 18:00:46 +0000
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