From one of our Military Veterans, Tim Keesling to our amazing volunteer, Colleen Saffron in regards to her latest article about HOPE and PTSD. First, thank you for speaking up from the caregiver perspective. We often lose the voice of those caring for those with PTSD/TBI. Second, I would like to endorse what you are addressing. I have struggled with PTSD, Post Concussive Syndrome, and Moral Injury for several years. I have not been a very nice husband nor a very good father to my sons during this struggle. Heck, I still battle with demons (daily and nightly) as a result of PTSD. However, without the love, care, and support of my family I would not be as far along in the process of recovery as I am. No, I am not a great husband or father still, but I certainly am much further along than I was. The patience and love of my wife and sons has, simply put, been my saving grace. I still forget simple things (like where the insurance documents are at and to get the car inspected so they dont impact my family) - I call them TBI moments. We argue because I take out my frustration (WRONGLY) on those I trust the most (family) when I feel stupid for forgetting things. I still dont like crowds or big functions and definitely ask a lot of my family to accommodate me (which they graciously do, without making a big deal of it). No, I am not who I used to be - heck, I dont even know who I used to be sometimes. But, the good times are increasing. The journey is long, there have been and will continue to be tears, but I am truly blessed in my marriage and family to have those who will, and do, hold me accountable for my recovery. WE have established coping strategies. WE have worked out some of the kinks. WE have rebuilt trust. And WE have had many struggles throughout the process. Is it easy to love me? Frankly, no. My wife is the hero of my life for doing it anyway. My sons are incredible men for putting up with me. My family is why I still work on my issues. Being a caregiver is no easy or simple thing. Love doesnt just make everything magically okay. The work is the only way to get through it and on to a better place. Importantly, a better place is attainable. Thank you for your article.
Posted on: Tue, 08 Jul 2014 00:38:04 +0000