From the Police Wife Life page: "Q. “I’m new to this life, it scares me to think of what can happen to my LEO, I hate being alone at night, it’s so hard to explain to my kids why their mommy/daddy is gone so much. How do you get used to it and how do you explain it to your kids?” A. Your LEO was called to duty. It is not a job, it is who they are. They are a chosen few amongst a world of evil and a world of innocence which needs protection. They spend their life sacrificing themselves for the sake of others. You are not alone in your sacrifices as a police spouse. You are a member of a team of givers and protectors and servers. Your LEO is sworn to protect and serve others. Your LEO faces unknown but certain dangers each and every day. Your LEO must ignore the instinct of self-preservation on a continual basis in order to honor his/her call to duty. Every single second of every single day your LEO’s life is on the line – for others. It is his/her mission to come home safely to you and your family. In order to do what they do, they depend on those who love them, for support, encouragement, a loving embrace, and a place of solace and reprieve from the dangers of the streets. You are your LEO’s haven. A refuge from the evils and the monsters which never fade. You are the calmer when the nightmares of past calls come haunting them. You are the voice of reason when the politics of the upper brass make them want to walk away. You, as a spouse or life partner of a LEO are their back up. They rely on you to see past their sometimes hardened surface. They rely on you to see past their moments of emotionless survival. They rely on you to remind them that at home, in your haven, they can be wives and husbands and for those brief moments when the Kevlar comes off, they can let those walls down. You are their constant steady. You are their calm from the storm. No one else can give them that. No one else will give them that. Needed by all, hated by most, loved by few…. So who do you want to be to them? How do you wish for your children to perceive them? Live your life as if you are married to a hero. Teach your children the same. For it is the truth. There’s a difference in idolizing the badge and respecting the men and women who wear it. Live the latter. Life is choices. You can choose to make memories out of the moments you have or you can focus on all the time spent apart. That’s up to you. The best words of wisdom ever given to me came from the surviving spouse of a LEO whose husband was killed in the line of duty: “I wish I hadn’t worried so much. I wish I didn’t spend so much time upset about the kids missing out or holiday’s gone bad or the schedule always changing. I wish I hadn’t panicked so much when he got called out….. I wasted so much time preparing for him to die, that I missed out on so much of the time he lived”.
Posted on: Wed, 24 Jul 2013 14:27:18 +0000
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