Great Read!! Most women dream about their wedding days as little girls. I’m not one of those women. I’m not against romance or settling down, but just as love is an entirely biased experience, so is our approach to it and the way in which we interpret it. Some of us may revel in the idea of a relationship and in the possibility of experiencing “forever” with someone. However, there are also some of us who revel in the idea of being independent more. It’s not necessarily about the comfort we take in being with someone else, but in the comfort we feel in being confident, content and capable — alone or not. She knows how to take care of herself, the people around her and her life. She can match you on your level, inspire you to grow and she can contribute as well as she can receive. She knows and understands her worth and she has the self esteem to back it up. You can be satisfied in knowing that if she is with you, its by her choice. Because she wants to be with you, rather than because she feels she needs to be with you (the neediness and dependence is what causes most of the drama). Now strong and independent woman are used to doing a lot of everything on her own. She knows how to take care of herself and the people around her very well. In fact she may be “extremely comfortable” with the ease at which she feels she can manage her life. Therefore when you approach and interact with these women initially they can seem to have a “cool” disposition towards you. They may give you some challenging situations and conversations that are intended to put you off guard. And you can’t blame her for this, she is simply seeing if you are a guy that can handle her independence. She wants to know that you will encourage it, nurture it, rather than overrun it, or try to take it away from her. It will be hard for you to create and maintain attraction with a strong and independent woman if you are not a strong and independent man. As you will not understand her sense of life. Her way of living. You will not see the world as she sees it and this will create conflict in the future. To really truly appreciate a strong and independent woman, you must also understand what it is like to be strong and independent. Because then the two of you have a foundation (a solid one) to build upon. Strong and independent means drama free and no BS right? If when you ask this question you are wondering if there will be any emotional outbursts, if she is going to be rational most of the time and controlled in her emotions, then you have another thing coming. She is still a woman. And remember that women process and come to conclusions through a different way than men. She feels everything around her. She absorbs the energy of others. Even though she is strong and independent she will still need a safe place to fall. At times she will need to vent, to empty herself out of all these negative emotions and fill herself up with good positive yummy ones, which you can help her with. Remember she is still a woman. She is not just an attractive, overly emotional man.
Posted on: Fri, 07 Nov 2014 20:36:49 +0000