Great words of wisdom for moms with sons on our blog by Jessica Cornelius! "Preparing Him for The Other Woman" God entrusts our sons to us for only a short season. What a great opportunity to invest in their futures by preparing them to love and understand the heart of their future wife. The teenage years are the most opportune time to teach sons about tuning in to a woman’s heart. Here are just a few lessons that I took away from a book called Preparing Him for the Other Woman, written by Sheri Rose Shepherd: 1. Get him to think about the girl’s feelings. If you can help your son do this rather than trying to fix her problems, you will be aiding him in a big way. Ask him probing questions like, “What do you think she was feeling when she said that?” When your young man makes an effort to see things from a girl’s point of view, he is well on his way to being a loving leader. 2. Make a big deal of his efforts. The next time your son makes you a card, gives you a hug or kiss, or does something sweet, be affirming. When your son expresses his love to you, be sure to say something like, “The girl who marries you will be the most blessed girl in the world!” If you affirm his future success as a great husband, he will believe it. And even more important, when he grows up he will become it. 3. Have him tune in to you. Encourage him to ask you every day, “How can I help you today, Mom?” This will get him in the habit of expressing love through acts of service. During meals, prompt him to ask you questions about your day and steer the conversation toward things that are of mutual interest to you both. This will teach him to explore conversational topics outside his comfort zone, which will benefit him when he is courting his future wife. 4. Never let him mistreat you. It is your God-given responsibility as a mother to be the one woman in your son’s life who requires honor and respect from him. You will devastate your boy’s relationship with his future wife if you let him mistreat you or speak disrespectfully to you. 5. Take note of your son’s growing attraction to girls. When he starts noticing girls, encourage him to start thinking about the kind of woman he wants to marry. Talk about the qualities and temperaments of the different types of girls he likes and dislikes. Ask questions like, “What kind of mother do you think she will be?” “What is her family like?” “How is her relationship with God?” “Does she inspire you to be a better person when you’re with her?” These questions will really help your son focus on the big picture. And I loved this last suggestion to buy a pretty journal and begin to write encouraging letters and prayers to your future daughter-in-law. Sheri says, “I can promise you that if you do this, you will begin to fall in love with her before you ever meet her. As a result, the transition will be much easier when it happens.” What are some ways that you are preparing your boys for the other woman? leadingandlovingit/books/preparing-him-for-the-other-woman/
Posted on: Fri, 13 Sep 2013 11:44:29 +0000
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