Grief is such a emotional roller coaster. I have to be careful not to take peoples misinformed condolences and advice out of context. Anger is a big one. You are hurt ( soul injured ) and at times it would feel good to hurt back. I will not go there, there is not a need to do so. I had a friend within 24 hrs of Dads death call and tell me, You are single now Deb and gave advice on what one should do, now that she was single! I AM NOT SINGLE! I AM A WIDOW! and until I remove my wedding ring from my left hand, I am still married to my husband! He may not be physically here, where You can talk to him. I still talk to him! Our hearts are still entwined and until I say different, our hearts will remain So! The friend that called so soon after he died with her attempt at condolences. I refused to speak to her on the phone for about a month. She called 3 times. and I had my grand daughter tell her I couldnt come to the phone. The wound was fresh and I was angry at her. As the scar from the mortal wound somewhat covered, I thought, Deb, She messed up. Might not be the brightest marble in the bag of friends, suppose she.. in her way meant well. My bag of marbles (Friends) I hate losing one. Life is too short and everyone deserves another chance. So, one good day, I called her. She was not any brighter and I reconsidered out previous friendship, We have nothing in common and I didnt lose anything by removing her from my bag, sitting that friendship aside.
Posted on: Fri, 28 Mar 2014 19:00:02 +0000
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