Group input needed: I could use some Narc deciding and advice from the group. Divorce is final, he fought for more visitation to get child support reduced. He got it, but I got primary physical care. Now hes not providing clothing and some clothing Ive sent has disappeared. Sends my daughter to school in last years clothes, pre divorce (shes size 8, has worn size 4 and 6 to school.) I cant keep buying clothes. Got my lawyers opinion- he said child support was reduced because the Narc is responsible for all care when theyre with him, including clothes. What have you done? Im sure Im not the only one to deal with this. This is Narcs response: Involve my lawyer with what? What exactly are you asking for? Please be very, very specific rather than engaging in your usual vague nonsense. As far as clothes go, to date I have bought them clothing, for example, additional Sunday clothes for (son) and various clothing items for the girls. The children have been and continue to be cared well for by me. There is ZERO legitimate basis for revisiting the visitation or child support arrangements. This is just another transparent attempt by you to manipulate and bully me for your own purposes. The divorce settlement has no language around any ...thought that the 20% reduction is that he will be picking up some expenses you would normally have... that your lawyer alludes to. The 20% reduction is because they spend approximately 40% of their overnights with me, which represents a significant reduction in the normal child-related expenses you have. Extraordinary expenses such as medical and extracurricular activities have been addressed separately in the agreement. When the children are with me, I have provided a more than adequate home for them to live in, clothes to wear, food to eat, entertainment, etc. Thats their physical needs and they are being met. I have also have ensured their time with me is in a loving, nurturing environment with lots of family activity time, one on one time with me, church attendance and so forth. Adequate funds have been given to you to purchase clothes for the kids. It appears based on the clothing they wear when they come over you may not be using much of the child support money for that purpose. I have had a few requests from kids about clothes recently and I can only assume thats at least in part because you are neglecting or refusing to buy these items for them. If that is the case, then please buy some more clothes for the kids especially with the current change in seasons. Please make sure the kids have proper clothing for when they come to visit; (eg. warmer clothes and jackets, shoes instead of sandals)
Posted on: Sun, 12 Oct 2014 04:34:44 +0000